Apparently I'm distracting (and not the good kind)

[Ninster]

Ran Expert today, got Pharos Sirius Hard with what I presume from character names must have been a preformed party of at least 2, possibly 3. (PLD and WHM had same last name, but BRD's was of similar unpronouncability)

After greetings are done I do things as usual with SMN: AoE the hell out of everything. After the first pull the tanks stalls for awhile, I'm presuming to complain in FC/linkshell chat. Second pull, same story, next verse. We get to the boss, I do my thing, boss goes down, no problem. Before the next set of trash, we stall some more. At this point, the ONLY thing in party chat is the hi's and hello's from the start.

After the next set of trash, before the bomb incubator, the tank finally blows up: "Stay away. PLEASE. You're causing me problems to avoid AoEs since earlier."

It takes me a moment to register that I'm the one being addressed. I apologize, although I'm really confused considering that if I haven't been eating AoEs, then HE shouldn't have.

"You don't need to use that bad AoE that does no damage[s]. You have nice skills as SMN. You have the lvl 60 skill. You have the debuff. Please use those instead of Miasma [II] and Blizz II."

Uh... okay. So for the rest of the instance, since I'm not sure what was a problem and what wasn't, I stuck to DoTs, Bane and Fester.

So this brings up some questions:

1. For multiple targets, I thought Miasma II and Blizz II were okay? Considering he was doing decent sized pulls I thought they would've been helpful.

2. Do I now need to ask tanks if I should use AoE skills?

I'm feeling really confused and hurt by this. More confused, I guess. I mean, I'm definitely flexible. You ask for single-target, I'll do it. You want to LB the last pack, I'll do it. Just say something. But waiting halfway through the dungeon to bring up this AND call into question my ability as SMN is kind of... low.

On the off-chance that one of this party visits the forums and sees this, I'm really sorry I was causing trouble, but the above statements express what I really wanted to say.

[Kabooa]

You being in melee doesn't somehow make melee AoEs target him more often.

[Shurrikhan]

You being in melee doesn't somehow make melee AoEs target him more often.

Well, technically you can drop AoEs targeting you on the melee by stacking on them in several dungeons, the very start of Pharos being among them... but if he isn't some weird cast-locked melee hybrid... he can dodge. Easily. And if he has no positionals, I don't see any reason for complaint.

Thank you for maximizing your AoE dps.

[Ossom]

Congratulations, you met another bad player in a Dungeon. Welcome to the club, there are plenty of them. You did nothing wrong.

[AskaRay]

Man if they hate you as a DPS using Miasma II and Blizz II then they must REALLY hate me doing that as a SCH.

[Kuroyasha]

Id love to have ya in a random dungeon doing what smns actually should be doing. Don't worry about that party; Baddies gonna bad ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[Jim_Berry]

My skin is thick, as people complain about everything. I never understood why people be so focused on what another person is doing. I was in a dungeon as NIN. I used a Morel Salad HQ. The DRG lol'd at me, asking why I'm not using a Truffle HQ. I never responded. Like, seriously... Do your job, and leave me alone.

[Jamillion]

My skin is thick, as people complain about everything. I never understood why people be so focused on what another person is doing. I was in a dungeon as NIN. I used a Morel Salad HQ. The DRG lol'd at me, asking why I'm not using a Truffle HQ. I never responded. Like, seriously... Do your job, and leave me alone.

You should have answered "Because I'm not wasting food on you"

[Knahli]

My skin is thick, as people complain about everything. I never understood why people be so focused on what another person is doing. I was in a dungeon as NIN. I used a Morel Salad HQ. The DRG lol'd at me, asking why I'm not using a Truffle HQ. I never responded. Like, seriously... Do your job, and leave me alone.

Ahaha, this comment made me laugh a lot. Even if I haven't had very many bad experiences, there's nothing but truth in it.

[Ten-ibris]

What you were doing sounds fine. It sounds like it's the tank who can't manage properly. Forget about that guy, if he cant stand a few hits, why tank geez.