Why are low standards for dps acceptable?

[Kuwagami]

Is it because I didn't coddle the DPS when I asked him why he didn't use enochian? Do I have to talk to people like they are children that wlll cry if I don't ask them something in the nicest and most passive way imagineable?

Generally speaking, yes. Or else you'll face being ignored, or reported for harassment, or what-have-you. With that said...

You may be taking this game a touch too seriously.

^This

Also, you can't teach people how to play in a single run. Especially in DF parties. Tell them they might want to check up some guides, eventually give them links if they want some, but by telling them what to do if they didn't ask is out of your way.


Generally, I just say something along the lines of "you're not doing the maximum you could do, may I give you some bit of advice ?" and then it's up to them to know if they want to improve or not.