as my wife sounds pretty much as you described I understand where you are coming from but she is just not going to do these events, as people already mentioned Ifrit Easy Mode is there so you can experience the Ifrit fight without doing the end game version. However It would be good if the easy one was repeatable for those sort of people.

And to as whoever it was that asked how these sort of people coped in every day surroundings, the answer is with difficulty, hence something like an mmo is very good for them where they can experience alot of people without really being with a lot of people.