Watsuuuuup! Dude, its a game and try your best to feel excited instead of pessimistic or skeptical. I respect your posted opinion and will try to share with your concerns.
1st off, try not to mention the word "offended" because its totally turning the tide on other players and even the DEV team who is doing their best to make the game better for you. No one feel the same way you do and it's a universal function in society to charge for service for the better part living... and don't forget of economy.
Sorry but okay, that out the way.
I agree with you to a certain extent... that PvP won't benefit the social expansions of this new MMORPG but lets think out of the box for a second or two. Think on how SE implemented PvP in FFXI. There's measure on how you can use the system with out loosing the fun factor. As educated that you may seem, look to alternative arguments- to make what the majority of people have look at "PvP"- see it differently.
SE plans to release a new version of FFXIV 2.0 on the PS3 and FFXIV will not be the same. If there's a motive to take part in PvP, it'll most likely be contained in the new colosseum. For the most part, we don't yet know how SE will manage PvP in FFXIV but I'm sure it's a work in progress. I look forward to PvP but not in the sense of "Ganking player left and right like in other MMOs (if you know what I mean).
If one-on-one PvP was to be the main stage of events, I suggest that SE looks at it as a privilege and something to 'work hard for and earn' It should work off tiers and stages, much like tournaments where you work your way up the ranks, i got ideas(Um, I threw a lot out there because I have my own ideas) but I don't want to steal your thunder,lol!
I encourage you not to resist the changes with the "adding of PvP" but try to stand up to "bad rep" it has and propose ideas so it doesn't ruin this MMO. SE encourages hard work, team work, fun, adventure and exploration and good social experiences.
If your reading this SE, live up to these expectations. Don't mirror other games and steal their ideas but work of ours.
Remembering back then when I was researching "alakazaam" for FFXI, I mentioned ideas that somehow made it to the game. It was casual posting and many people favored and supported it. I hope it can happen more here more often.