You keep saying you have access to all these different means of communicating with people and have a large pool of people (in goblin) to call upon. I have 1 linkshell (that's purely a for fun LS, not a purposed one) and 5 people outside of my FC on my friends list. I have zero issue's finding people to do things with. That's why I'm very very curious as to why you are having such trouble all around. My queue times aren't even half as long as yours.

PF is always iffy though. Most on goblin don't bother to look even when people shout it a billion times. It's not until you find you're running the same thing with them for a while that you join (mostly fate grinding). Don't put so much effort into finding PF's.