Quote Originally Posted by Twilite View Post
Which has been the primary thing working against me in making meaningful friendships. You're at a disadvantage with people who have established friendships.
Most free companies, unless you build on from scratch or its brand new will have these sort of friendships. You could always do what I did and force your way into these "cliques" takes a bit of effort but it's 100% possible. That's how a friend of mine for 10 years met. He wanted to do stuff, so he went and did everything with people he found interesting. He made sure if there was something happening, he was being apart of it. Some people wait to be personally invited to do things, other people ask to join. And ask to participate. Those are the kinds of people that tend to get further in a "clique" type group.

I have a "clique" and I constantly invite people outside of said clique to join. Constantly welcoming, constantly asking if they want to come along. It can be tiring, especially when later down the line they say things like, "They don't feel welcomed." When I see a person log on and I say, "Hey! We've been waiting to see you get on! Wanna do stuff with us?" and then weeks later they say they're unwelcomed. I don't know, I think some people try to purposely try to avoid other people with friends, and think of every reason not to join them. Or be apart of their "group" because it was already once established.

Some cliques are very welcoming, if you're willing to work on a friendship just as much as they try to. Some people just don't want to, or come up with every excuse not to because they feel they "can never fit in" when that's never always the case.