I don't find players friendly.

[Whiteroom]

It's all in finding the right FC at the right time.

For example, my FC was a laid back crafting fc for the most part. A few of us would run more advanced content, but it was never the focus. A lot of decisions were made on a whim as people all had played with each other for awhile and knew what the others could put up with.

Then came Heavensward and a huge influx of new members, and we were just getting an FC semi-static off the ground as well. We even had people mass exit other guilds for ours. So we had the new static clique, a couple of other new fc cliques, and other single players and old members as well. Everyone was busy with leveling and learning, and despite attempts to keep people happy, things came to a head quickly. We had members pissed that people who had joined after them (like a week) were promoted before them (it can be easy to notice people who help in areas your interesting in, while passing over others who play the game much differently). Others feeling left out and ignored. Others who wanted the static to help them clear, but wouldn't even try in runs like T5 as they knew that they didn't have too.

Things got out of hand and we (the leadership council) had to spend a good chunk of a weekend discussing everything and reorganizing the fc from the ground up, to keep from imploding.

Point is, look around at your FC, is it suffering from growing pains? Which people are you asking for help? and what help? If it is someone who is always on and aloof, they are the problem. If it is the guy who just worked a 12 hour shift and wants a quick daily before bed, maybe think before asking for dungeon runs. If you look at the FC list, and everyone online is in a Raid, that may be why they aren't answering. If everyone is sitting around doing nothing, and not helping, gtfo of that FC. Also, if you are getting sarcastic answers to reasonable questions, get out. We have had to openly state to our people that if you don't get a response right away, just chill a bit, maybe they are afk, maybe they are in a battle, maybe they don't know.

I figure a lot of FCs are suffering from the influx from HW, unless they have limits on how many can join. Just look around and evaluate the fc. Remember everyone there is a person behind the monitor with a life (regardless of how much of one) happening.

That's fairly jumbled, and I hope it came out right, I'm very tired... but I had written most of it down before I realized how tired I was. Hope it makes some sense. Guess I'm saying:
You are getting a lot of the "Easy Answers" that you tend to get on forums. "Oh, dick FC get out!" and "Poor you" stuff. Maybe they are right and maybe they are wrong, you are the one who can actually see whats going on and know if its right or not.

Rule of thumb: Never, ever go into a blind invite FC! You don't build a family with a revolving door!

Another example: Someone joined when I wasn't on. They are a fresh recruit. They spent a lot of time chatting in FC with people yesterday, and the FC leader played with them for more than an hour to get their chocobo. Today, they didn't get an answer to some question right away, and all of a sudden FC chat is getting "I quit fc or should I stay..."