I don't find players friendly.

[LilPink]

Thanks for the thoughtful responses, everyone.

I don't have anyone to play with in the game that is a friend irl. My husband doesn't seem to be interested in playing as he is still raiding content in WOW, playing Fallout 4 and Battlefront in his free time. I really enjoy this game, it's new to me and after 8 years of the same game, that is a novelty that I don't think will go away for sometime. I'm a shut-in and don't get out much so the computer and games are a way for me to communicate with people. When I'm rebuffed in the game, it hurts my feelings and gives me a bad vibe. I have been trying to concentrate on learning the content but my brain can only allow me to go so far and I learn from engaging, not reading big walls of texts!

[FunkYeahDragons]

I hope you wound up trying a new FC. Some of them are open as far as numbers go, but they're not really open to new people. My first FC on my original server had good people who helped me settle into the game, but they were an old group of friends and couples. Very set in their relationships and how they wanted to play, and our goals didn't match.

After transferring I had to try three before settling on a fourth. I ran into similar problems where I felt I had to work my way into a clique, but at the same time the FC didn't seem to offer me much to make it worth the time. Very quiet, few to no group activities, standoffish players, etc. I wound up sticking with one that had a PF ad up because there was in-game chat in addition to Teamspeak, people running content together, and general good vibes.

Don't go by numbers alone, one with 50 members can actually be better than one with 100.

[Malicewolf]

Don't go by numbers alone, one with 50 members can actually be better than one with 100.

In general, one with less people is always more apt to be friendly and accommodating because there's less people to take care of. But with that, it also (usually) means there's less they can offer as well due to less man power.

With larger FC's, there's more personalities, more cliques, etc. This can be both good and bad. Smaller FC's tend to be easier to figure out if you clique quicker because there's less people you have to get to know first (but if it's made between friends, usually harder to break into the group). So yes, smaller can be better, but it goes both ways really.

[Alisane]

When I'm rebuffed in the game, it hurts my feelings and gives me a bad vibe. I have been trying to concentrate on learning the content but my brain can only allow me to go so far and I learn from engaging, not reading big walls of texts!

People are a lot bolder behind a keyboard where you can't see their face and there are no repercussions.. Ignore them and move on. Hopefully that is not the majority of the player base you are interacting with! I tend to keep to myself but I noticed once I was more outgoing in my FC that I started to feel more at home. Then I took a break from the game for a while and when I came back, a group of old FC mates invited me to their new FC which was an adjustment too... Now I'm comfortable with everyone. It just takes time to find the kind of people you like and get comfortable with them. And if you ever need any help or friends on Leviathian, send me a tell!

[Niluriel]

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Oh my! This is almost the exact same situation I am in!

I tried FFXIV a little while ago and decided to come back recently because I am very tired of the toxic people in WoW where it's so acceptable to be cruel that players have become brazen about it and even proud of it.

Lately some personal issues have made me feel like a hermit. Fortunately I can work from home but online games are where I do all my socializing and reaching out.

Also my boyfriend is only playing Fallout 4 so I feel very alone and intimidated by the complicated game systems and mechanics. I am an intelligent and experienced raider, but I am also used to a game where people tell you to kill yourself if you make a mistake in a dungeon! It's made me terrified of not being knowledgeable on every aspect of every game I try to get into now.

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck and hope you find a great home away from home.

[JoelStrife]

What server do you play on?

I'm in a free company on Phoenix who I know would welcome you with open arms. A very friendly community that's helped me to no end with the learning curve of the game.

Either way I hope you stick with it, it's a great game and you will get a lot out of it.