Not gonna read the entire thread,

But if you're gonna queue up with a friend to gather, thats a nono. meaning 2 people less to claim DMG on mobs. they will high likely not get any drops. If you wanna gather i suggest either queuing alone or make a PF For it.
How ever, i do respect the fact that you guys did not lot anything.

I'm fine with someone gathering, but the main purpose there is farming loot. And that is not gonna happen if multiple people focus on gathering, i'm sorry to say that but it is the harsh truth. And yes, its a design flaw, i usually gather the last 5-10 minutes cause i do not plan on screwing 7 other people over for my own personal goals or what ever you wanna call it.