Well of course they're harassing you, you won't carry them.

People are angry because they're being forced to lie in the bed they made. We've had two years of content where people that pull numbers that are half of baseline for their ilvl, can't handle basic mechanics, and half the time don't know the fundamentals of their job have been bounced through content because the choices were always put in twice the effort to muddle through or eat the lockout, because expecting things like the tank in EXDR to understand group threat is *gasp* elitist.
Now we have Diadem, and people are unhappy because they're getting their nose rubbed in their mess. Guess what, there's no singular goal! If I want to fish, I can fish! My problem is "do I have enough bait to last the timer". The i190+ guys pulling 500 DPS preventing them from getting kill credit? The ice mages, the "ruin is useless" SMNs, the no-positional MNKs, the no gauss/minuet ranged? That's their problem, and if they want their 210 gear so bad they should yell at them instead of crying that the one serious player in their group is off hitting trees instead of carrying seven people to a higher ilvl.

It's not hard, people. I went into Normal mode on a gather-friendly group, all of the poopsock elite raiders went off to gather and the three casual players that just wanted to fight stuff went off to do their thing. We got full credit on everything they fought. That's right, three "lol I only play on the weekends" guys were cleaning house no problem regardless of mob rank. Yet this forum is full of people screaming about DoL "leeches" that are ruining everything because getting credit with seven people is impossible (when they're bad)! But no one wants to practice a bit of introspection and think that maybe they should up their game a bit, not when it's easier to pick a scapegoat and use red herrings like "looting without fighting" (which makes me laugh, how many of those people do you think make an effort to find the gatherer that got the chest that autolotted that purified coke to them so they can give it to the person that "earned" it?) so they can shift blame.