Regarding healers acting as DPS

[Taika]

To reiterate what many others have said: don't change a thing. People need to learn that a healer's job isn't to heal HP but rather to prevent HP from reaching 0. As long as nobody dies, then you're doing your job, and any healing beyond what is absolutely necessary is a decision based entirely on your confidence in your own skill as well as your party members'.

This! Emphasis mine. To OP, it seems like you're good at your job and aiming to use it for the biggest possible benefit for your group. If someone doesn't appriciate that, that's their loss.

I'm currently levelling up a tank and noticing a lot of healers are simply not keeping me above 50%, thus causing me to pop cooldowns when they're too busy either just doing nothing or DPSing.

As a tank, your job is to use your abilities to help your group to make the fights go as smoothly as possible. Using cooldowns should not be considered an extra effort but instead something you constantly do to help your group. I play both healers (I'm main SCH but also play WHM) and tank (PLD) in dungeons and I often time Sentinel and even Hallowed Ground so that I can give some time for my healer to put their DoTs up. I trust my healer to handle their part while I handle mine (or the opposite when I'm playing the healer) and I don't expect to be babysat through the dungeon.

[Fourbestintoner]

It's Copperbell, what you did wrong is not letting him drop below 10%.

[Chiramu]

Us tanks can get over it, trust me. As long as we don't die I don't care what hp i'm at.

Don't let this group get to you op.

I wouldn't give a healer like the OP a comm if I were the tank, but I wouldn't of kicked him.

[Aika_Nakamura]

As a tank, your job is to use your abilities to help your group to make the fights go as smoothly as possible. Using cooldowns should not be considered an extra effort but instead something you constantly do to help your group. I play both healers (I'm main SCH but also play WHM) and tank (PLD) in dungeons and I often time Sentinel and even Hallowed Ground so that I can give some time for my healer to put their DoTs up. I trust my healer to handle their part while I handle mine (or the opposite when I'm playing the healer) and I don't expect to be babysat through the dungeon.

I agree wholeheartedly. However, I was talking about abilities such as Hallowed Ground. You'll never convince me to not save Hallowed Ground for that critical moment where the healer is simply not healing me. I always keep buffs (and DoTs) up whenever it makes sense, but popping a cooldown with something like a 180sec cooldown on a random trash pull where I'm not taking much damage anyway seems a bit asinine. Yes, I should make the fights get by smooth enough, of course; I've played a WHM (it's my main job at this point; I've played SCH as well, but in the lv50 days) and I love to DPS. So, I'd like the tank mitigates if they can. However, I always save a cooldown or two for the event that simply something goes awry. In DF groups, this is common. I'll save something (like the +20% buff) for that event that the healer just blanks out.

[Aika_Nakamura]

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Learning is a wonderful thing; I don't judge you for it whatsoever.

Well, I'd be lying if I said I've never done the same. However, I say "25% is dangerous" in the sense of a) random burst damage, b) some tanks actually complain about this. I've let tanks drop below 25% more than once and I've the same experiences. I don't generally "anticipate" attacks like that (okay, I do quite a lot, but I try not to), mainly because I've found that a lot of DF tanks simply do not like it when you do that. I'm also running out of character space here, ugh.

[Moomba33]

Personally when I'm tanking I prefer healers to keep me over 50%.
As I general rule I value safety over speed.

I wouldn't kick someone for letting me go lower though or even tell them to change their play style so long as we're progressing smoothly.
I know a lot of players like to focus on maximizing dps while tanking or healing and I respect that a lot of them are skilled enough to pull it off even though it's not something I feel comfortable with.

[Twilite]

In this thread, people playing with tanks lives in order to be weaksauce BLMs. Seriously, you all should know better.

Us tanks can get over it, trust me. As long as we don't die I don't care what hp i'm at.

Don't let this group get to you op.

Oh you piss your pants dude when your HP is 2000/16000 longer than 3 seconds(you're dead in 4 seconds). Don't even try to lie about it.

[Venjamin]

I agree wholeheartedly. However, I was talking about abilities such as Hallowed Ground. You'll never convince me to not save Hallowed Ground for that critical moment where the healer is simply not healing me. I always keep buffs (and DoTs) up whenever it makes sense, but popping a cooldown with something like a 180sec cooldown on a random trash pull where I'm not taking much damage anyway seems a bit asinine. Yes, I should make the fights get by smooth enough, of course; I've played a WHM (it's my main job at this point; I've played SCH as well, but in the lv50 days) and I love to DPS. So, I'd like the tank mitigates if they can. However, I always save a cooldown or two for the event that simply something goes awry. In DF groups, this is common. I'll save something (like the +20% buff) for that event that the healer just blanks out.

And if you died, then your point would make sense. Why would you pop a 180sec cooldown on a random trash pull where you're not taking much damage anyways? It's a trash pull, there won't be a tankbuster ( and if there will, your healer will generally know about it ) or a reason to panic. You can sit at ~10-20% HP comfortably, and trust that your healer will see it and take care of you. That's all they have to do. I, personally, am still getting used to high-level healing, so I only stance dance when I'm comfortable, but I know how much HP I can throw at a moment's notice, and I can see how quickly your HP drops.

[Valesti_Peleiades]

I wouldn't kick someone for letting me go lower though or even tell them to change their play style so long as we're progressing smoothly.
I know a lot of players like to focus on maximizing dps while tanking or healing and I respect that a lot of them are skilled enough to pull it off even though it's not something I feel comfortable with.

This! Emphasis mine. I have a lot of respect for a tank who's willing to be set outside their comfort zone because they trust that healers understand how to fulfill the basic requirements of their role (i.e., prevent HP from reaching 0) until proven otherwise.

[technole]

I don't think people who don't play healers understand how stressful the job is. But each job has it's own stresses. Tanks need to trust their healers to make the proper decisions.

Tanking isn't stressful, especially not in copperbell. Unless you are seriously undergeared and can't hold hate to a candle.

If anything is stressful it's because some people have performance anxiety where their job performance is clear as day and that is usually why they are less tanks and to a lesser extent, healers.

I don't care how low my HP is as a warrior, as long as they can handle keeping me alive that is all that matters. If you have done some of the end-game raids like coil and savage as a tank, you'll know that it's OK to be extremely low HP from a hit. If i'm that beat over it I make sure i'm in Defiance-Equalibirum to self-heal.