This is getting way too long. And off topic.
You outright stated that, even in the darkest depths of their soul, the Warrior of Light thinks the Scions are an inseparable part of their identity. Yes they are our good friends and coworkers, but we have an identity outside that, and as I proved with the DRK 45 Quest Log, some part of them wishes they could get away from it all and eke out a quiet living.
The DRK 45 Quest Log says so. Even if they don't consciously acknowledge it. Believe whatever you will, but know the truth.
That doesn't mean the Warrior of Light would throw everything away, but that a part of them wants to.
I'm not even talking about Ilberd here, I'm directly quoting the DRK 45 Quest Log (hijacked a bit by "Fray"). And Fray is not a "small" part of you; s/he is everything you are and feel but deny for whatever reason (primarily social restraints). S/he is half of you, not a fraction. I also don't care what the tone of the Japanese version is. I'm running purely on the English version, and while the Japanese version does provide more context sometimes, nothing I said there had anything to do with Ilberd.
I recognize I'm the one being cynical for its own sake, and I don't know why you take issue with that. Looking at things from different perspectives provides deeper insight. I have nothing against idealism, but I try and use multiple viewpoints. That's why having the three characters we did with us on 3.0's main journey was beneficial - we had Estinien (the cynic), Ysayle (the idealist), and Alphinaud (the realist) to balance everything.
I know exactly where Fray came from. The problem is that few people seem to acknowledge the Warrior of Light's feelings; while you do regain control during the 50 quest, who's to say the pressure and despair won't build to the breaking point again? Things are looking up during 3.0, but we suffer more trauma through it.
The Scions have been at their job for about 5 years; the Circle of Knowing came from Sharlayan what I would approximate to be a few months before the Calamity. Minfilia maybe a bit longer, but who's to say. We're still the one with the short end of the stick 9 times out of 10.
Fray is more than your doubts and insecurities. Do you know what a psychological shadow archetype is? Fray is the Warrior of Light's shadow, with all that entails. Not just a "bad" version of them, or an embodiment of their negative feelings (though those are a pretty major component of it).
I'm not going to continue to beat this now undead horse and am fine with simply admitting we have a difference of opinion. But no, I have never been in a managerial position.
I never said nobody else risks life and limb. I said nobody else risks life and limb as often as we do, which is almost constantly.
Were we physically impaired as a result of the Ul'dah incident? Of course not. But there's psychological scars, even if the Warrior of Light hides them, that will simply continue to be cut deeper as s/he finds out his/her close friends were handicapped protecting him/her. It's called "survivor guilt."
Nobody who really knows us thinks of us as a machine, but they never try and bring up an alternative solution to a primal summoning. Their first and only option is to throw us at it.
Everyone who only knows of us thinks we're the ideal hero, though. The Warrior of Light him/herself doesn't believe it (just look at Fray), but tries to live up to those expectations - and it puts them on the verge of psychological collapse by the beginning of 3.0, to say nothing of the shit that gets heaped on them throughout that story. Doing the DRK 30-50 line does help them regain some composure, I think, but it's not like the fear, doubt, and despair is gone - you're just actually acknowledging it and actively fighting it now instead of pretending it doesn't exist.
Only Saturday Morning Cartoon villains say things just to hurt you, and while Ilberd is far from the most sympathetic villain in the story, he still has noble intentions at heart. His actions are simply very disagreeable. He thinks we're blind and ignorant, and unless you consider what he's saying may have a grain of truth to it, you are blind and ignorant. Willfully.
Estinien makes assumptions, but they're based on what he's seen. That's not unfair. And like it or not, Alphinaud says "The Scions are gonna kill Ravana cuz it's what we do" knowing full well you are the only one can do it, and makes this declaration without asking you if you feel you're up to it or are afraid or anything. Yes, it's your "job," but he could at least have the decency to ask.
Fray is half of you, psychologically speaking, not just a tiny piece.
And that is where the DRK 30-50 line belongs. It loses its impact if you do it any time else. The psychological scars from 2.x are still there, but things are looking better if not ideal.
After some of the introductory dungeons and trials, everything is treated as a solo affair. Giving you advice, feedback, and information (when they do that) is not the same as standing back-to-back with you on the battlefield, which rarely happens (but it does happen). You don't really have anyone to lean on, because none of them know what it's like to be on a barge in the middle of the ocean fighting Godsdamned Leviathan while he tries to throw you into the sea and there's Sahagin swarming your platform and...
If you consider the only thing the Warrior of Light is supposed to do fighting Primals, I guess. Going in blind and still coming out on top proves we don't necessarily need intel and preparation. We fight by the seat of our pants instead of having the path to victory spelled out for us. That was the point of 3.0, in terms of the Warrior of Light's character growth.
And that is why Fray tries to get us to abandon our duties, lest we die a slave. (Being cynical again and you're just going to dismiss it. That's fine.)
Lacking guidance is not a bad thing. It actually proves we don't need a leash and collar to do the right thing, which is exactly what Midgardsormr was trying to test in us. The path to victory is not always spelled out, and wanting it so just proves you're in it for the glory. There's nothing wrong with making up the plan as you go, so long as you're willing to deal with the consequences.
We're provided a few meals and a couple bucks by the Scions. Not even quarters. (Unless that's who's magically paying for my inn...) We have to buy our own homes and what we get paid by the Scions is nowhere near enough to do that. Not that it's their fault, mind, but that's still the way it is.
Nobody provides you much in the way of psychological or moral support, except a little bit from Minfilia now and again.
Even if the Warrior of Light consciously denies wanting any recognition for their heroism, Fray (your subconscious) strongly disagrees and wants some. You do get some, but everyone is taking advantage of your kindness and generosity to heap more shit on you. Everyone. Minfilia even acknowledges she is doing so, repeatedly, but has no choice. Doesn't make it right or fair.
Not here for this, I told you that. Moving on.
The responses are vague enough they can be interpreted into most anything, but Fray (your subconscious / shadow archetype) says you set out to become a hero and do great things. Getting the title "Warrior of Light" didn't change you much, but it did put a lot of expectations on your shoulders - and you don't always want to live up to them, even assuming you can.
Without knowing the Scions, I don't think it's fair to presume the Warrior of Light would risk their skin for them the moment they joined the organization. We would fight to the death to defend them now, but we've known them for some time and are close friends with them. (I never said we weren't.)
We were forced to do nothing. We chose to leave Minfilia & co. behind at the ending of 2.5.5, however unpleasant a choice that may have been.
... aaaand I'm done, because this took me like an hour and a half to respond to and is waaaaaay off topic. Seeya next time someone "disses" (criticizes) the Scions!