New player looking for help

[Anova]

Yea I did read and learn about the Linkshells, but I don't know how to find people that will let me join theirs.

The forums are actually a pretty good place to start. The New player section here is much nicer and generally the most helpful, but you can venture in to your server forum if you want. Take a look and see if you can find anything there.

Otherwise, spend some time to really look around. The Limsa and Gridanian areas are generally very active out of the starting city states (might vary a little depending on time for your server), as is Ishgard and Idyllshire when you unlock them at levels 51 and 58. There's a few players who will send you random tells welcoming any new player they see to the game (you have a nice green leaf next to your name so it's super easy), so you can start up with them.

If you want to start a conversation, look for one of the bored players in those towns. You can tell almost immediately because they're all be dancing together in the middle of the road. They'll be more willing to talk and spend the time to show you around, because the alternative is dancing the same dance over and over again while wearing lingerie in public. Players crafting might also work, although they probably won't go out in the field with you. You can ask them questions and expect a response at least between their craft macros.

A second way is to use the party finder (unlocked after your first dungeon completion around lv.15 to 16) and look for recruitment parties or post your own. You can also join FATE parties and some will be especially talkative, especially if they know you're new to the game.