Should I Just Quit The Game?

[SerosJourney]

Possibly you whine too much, I have no idea in game but if I got a wall of text like that in FC chat I'd mute you.

I'd rather mute yourself!!!
No compassion or something to say about the topic but such rubbish???
Shame on you!!! Seriously...shame. on. you.



To the Topic:

I think sometimes, it's pretty hard to find a nice FC...I were in two before....it was weird xD
But....maybe it's a good idea to take a break ^^
one week, some days...doesn't matter. But imho it would be very sad if you quit this game just because of those ppl.

Edit:

This is just my personal (honest) opinion. Maybe you are over thinking the situation a little? These are people online, in a game, who you personally don't know and you shouldn't let these people get to you on a personal level.

It's very easy to mis-interpret people over the internet, and with your depression maybe you have a little anxiety and worry about what people think too much. Those people were rude for kicking you without explanation and that shouldn't matter to you. I found myself that some people on this game take things way too seriously, with FC leadership and drama etc. Please don't let it get to you. There are a lot of FCs that won't stand for this and will welcome you.

I hope you can find a new FC and enjoy the game again. If you're ever on Cerberus, you are welcome to join my FC

Very good!! ^^
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[WinterLuna]

This is just my personal (honest) opinion. Maybe you are over thinking the situation a little? These are people online, in a game, who you personally don't know and you shouldn't let these people get to you on a personal level.

It's very easy to mis-interpret people over the internet, and with your depression maybe you have a little anxiety and worry about what people think too much. Those people were rude for kicking you without explanation and that shouldn't matter to you. I found myself that some people on this game take things way too seriously, with FC leadership and drama etc. Please don't let it get to you. There are a lot of FCs that won't stand for this and will welcome you.

I hope you can find a new FC and enjoy the game again. If you're ever on Cerberus, you are welcome to join my FC

[Jim_Berry]

I quit the game some time last year for two or three months. Like you, people didn't mind me around. However, my "flaw" was my lack of damage as a DPS class. It got so bad that when I ask can I join a group, they'd have a conversation first. It became so frustrating that I just only spammed dungeons via Duty Finder. After a while, I wasn't making progress, so I stopped playing, didn't even pay my sub for those months. I went back to DC Universe and Final Fantasy XI.

I came back because in DC, the League I was in had disbanded. FFXI was losing people when it was announced that the Xbox 360 and PS2 connection will be discontinued in March 2016. I came back to FFXIV with the mentality that I'll just stay to myself. It has helped a great deal. While I do more content with groups, I don't raid. I tried Alexander Savage 1, and we couldn't even beat Faust. Surprisingly, I was not the reason.

Anywho, just take a break and play a different game like I did. You will returned refreshed.

[Kurogaea]

Possibly you whine too much, I have no idea in game but if I got a wall of text like that in FC chat I'd mute you.

Wow, representing FFXIV general populace huh? Nice to know. :/
IMO, using this game to settle your depression is more like feeding it then relieving. The game requires you have friends and people to participate with to get things, and more than often you will meet jerks like this guy ^. Just take a break from the game for a while, play something fun, eat something sweet, watch your favorite tv show, when you feel rejuvenated and ready to take Eorzea by the Thal's Balls then give the game another go with a new mind set.

So don't take no crap from others. This is your game, you subbed for this, make it your own. If the games just not fun, don't feel ashamed, there's nothing wrong with you. The game is a required taste with a light bitterness that some can love it forever, others will grow to dislike it over time as the bitter taste intensifies, and sad ones will stick with it hoping it will taste better just to be part of something. Hope that makes sense, just be strong dude.

[Zeonx]

No First off, get rid of the drama around you, trust me get rid of it.

Don't even pay attention to what they say even go as for as black list those people that say it, nothing but problems, pretending to know someone by only meeting them on game and spreading rumors are crap so yeah cut that part out and its just gonna get better.

If your friend is listening to the bad stuff then they aren't your friend at all, a friend would stick up for you and have your back clearly if its driving a wedge between you two its done cut them out as well, your depression will just get better when you meet new people it might be hard but trust me sooner the better find a new FC cut the bad out, don't talk about life in FC or LS keep game strictly about the game that's it.

Don't give anyone anything to talk about or start issues, people used to do this in FFXI start problems and rumors and spread them around to try and hate on someone and if you ignore these types of people they just vanish.

[iambanana]

my easy tip is : Join top rank FC in your server, they will appreciate a player so much because of FC points, yes i play in 3 different server and join all top FC in that server and all of them is friendly, but maybe have a few drama, (you cant avoid drama when there is 100-150 people active in a community).

dont chat/talk too much too in FC chat, instead you can make a few close friend where you can spill all the tea with them.

[Kurogaea]

my easy tip is : Join top rank FC in your server, they will appreciate a player so much because of FC points, yes i play in 3 different server and join all top FC in that server and all of them is friendly, but maybe have a few drama, (you cant avoid drama when there is 100-150 people active in a community).

dont chat/talk too much too in FC chat, instead you can make a few close friend where you can spill all the tea with them.

Debatable solution. Large famous FCs could be just as rude and unlikable as the next small company just adding to drama. If going for the FC route just find a nice friend or two and see how they like their FCs, ask a few questions to be safe and see if you can join or politely refuse. For example I joined Soldier on my own and and had no one to associate with, they all kept to themselves and their own friend circles, I naturally left ( no offense to them, could've been a busy week).

[Vidu]

(I want to be honest - I didnt read most of the thread but the OP statment very carefully - I would have pretty much prefered a personal message, but since that doesnt seem to be possible...)

First I'd like to say that I mean to help - not to cause any harm (and should I repeat something someone already said, please forgive me - its late, I need some sleep but I feel as if I may can give some sort of advice or help here, at least I wanna try). But sometimes truth can hurt, I know that - so please, keep in mind that the last thing I want right now is to hurt you!
Still - batteling depression with an Online-game sounds like a pretty horrible idea to me. You dont fight a serious illness - because thats what depression is! - by playing an MMO. Please: Seek some professional help! You should be playing this (or any game) for fun - not as a therapie. (Specially not one you've made up enterily on your own) From the brief reading I had here I figured that a lot of people are just saying "Those guys were jerks, dont care about them, look for someone who is really nice to you!" - and I agree that you would deserve that! Truth is though... thats kinda unlikely. Dont get me wrong - its not unlikely that someone will be nice and friendly towards you - but its impossible to always be that way. I know from my own experience that it can be hard to keep the needs of others in mind while struggeling with a depressive episode - and I can only guess that this might have been one reason you "scared" people off. I know how rugh that sounds but... those people arent playing the game to be your therapist. I dont know you - so maybe I shouldnt say this but after I was reading your post I just got the impression that you need someone to talk to. Someone who will take care of you. Maybe something that will give you something "meaningful" to do. An MMO isnt the right place for this, believe me.

A game should be mostly about fun - not about batteling depression. I kinda share your experience that the game can even make that worse. So, please, for your own sake: Get some help! No FC, no one in this game can be a full-time therapist for you. But there ARE full-time therapist - they're just outside the game. Let those help you to become healthy again - or let them help you to find a way to deal with your depressions. I'm sure you can enjoy the game together with a lot of great people and friends again once you got that cleared up for yourself
So no, dont quit the game. Just take a break to take care of yourself before because you really deserve that. I'm sure you're a wonderful person - but that devil depression is pretty good to cover that up and drive you crazy about "little things". You're not to blame for that and I'm sure no one does - still I can imagine that its sometimes hard to deal with someone whos struggeling with such an illness.

Please - get some help to become that wonderful person you truely are again! But dont request that sort of help from people who are probadly also playing this game to escape from something or just to have a bit of fun after a stressful day at work. I'm sure you can find a lot of new and good friends who will support you once you're a bit more stable again. But right now it doesnt sound as if the game is doing you much good - so take that break to sort things out for yourself

I wish you the best of luck!
(...and hope this doesnt sound to confusing... or wrong... its late, I'm sorry >.< just felt as if I had to say this >.<)

oh and because it came just to my mind: I'd like to point that those people arent that problem. And that your arent the problem. The problem is your depression - but good news: thats a problem that can be solved!

[Eloah]

I want to thank everyone for their words of support and encouragement. I really appreciate the outpouring of empathy, both here anf in game. I will be taking a break to collect myself, I've already taken the first steps in starting anew.

Additionally, for those who mentioned me seeking help for my depression, and nkt jsing the game as medical care, I do have medical help and medication I take, the game was more my way of socializing, since I have no one in real life. But I will look into other avenues, since its clear this should not be the onlh one.

Again thanks to everyone I really appreciate it.

[Mycow8me]

It sounds like a woman came into the picture. Its all fun and games till that happens. Drama ensues. In before flaming even though its true.