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[Kallera]

If a tank loses aggro and causes a wipe, they get kicked.
If a healer messes up and causes a wipe, they get kicked.
If a DPS is pushing <50% of the DPS they should be with their gear, and cause a wipe, nothing happens, and the party eventually disbands.
If that is not babying, I don't know what is.
Also just look around the forums:
"Tanks should use STR gear, and do as much damage as they can" - Everything is fine.
"Healers should DPS every time they have downtime while healing" - Everything is fine.
"DPS should learn how to play and do more DPS" - Everyone loses their minds.

That's just not what i do, and not my experience in the DF, even when wiping as a tank.

And whether its here or reddit, there always people decrying posts that say THEIR role is at fault and its THEIR role that should learn how to play, extenuating circumstances be damned.

All i can say is im not that interested to return to a hardcore "do or die" mentality for this game. Sorry if that doesn't answer why the forums are what they are, i don't have that answer either.