To stay with my savage raid group, or leave...

[Isius]

Hello looking for some friendly advice. Currently on A2S with my static. Where I joined a buddy of mine, since he wanted to raid with me again. We haven't raided together since First Coil. So we wanted to make a group together. But feels like our group is starting to go nowhere. But I want to start things off with a quick view of our experiences as a static.

First off when Alex Sav came out we had problems. Even getting members, since we started a fresh static, one person got the game late due to irl stuff, replacing our mch, and blm before we even started. We started 2 weeks after Savage came out as a group. First night we got pass Faust after an hour. But then we hit a wall with Oppressors. Mainly due to healers couldn't keep up with healing before/after Hyper Plasma tankbuster. Might have been due to us having a Sch/Ast as our healers pre Ast buff. Anyways it took us a solid month to just beat A1S because of lack of healing, dps, people continously messing up..which they still do...and majority of the group outright feels tanks should always stay in tank stance leading to our group to have less dps to beat enrages.

Group comp is drk, pld, sch, ast, brd, blm, drg, nin. btw

Then we get to A2S, and there we stayed for 6 weeks now, soon to be 7 weeks. Because of people not showing up...work/date/vacation/etc, which is fine, real life over game life. It's just we only get 2 raid days a week with only 5hrs of raiding a week. So our progress is actually decent. But I think people are starting to get impatient. We got to enrage this monday for A2S. So today they wanted to push, push, push for the win. We didn't even get to enrage today after 3.5hrs. We started early because today was a rare day which some members could get on earlier then normal. But same problems happen over and over again. BLM aggroing with 2 x flares before tank can get any aggro. Then standing far away. DRG keeps dying. Bombs blow up on the group, or bomb kills off the Gobwalker person. People not positioning themselves after we stated where to go several times before. Also using methods/strats I feel make it harder for the group in later phases.

Idk, I just feel people in the static currently care more about individual performance, then group performance. Well...they care about group performance but mindset is more of inline on how can I boost my performance. Then what can the group do as a whole, if you get my meaning, hard to describe.

Basically as of today, I feel like some people are starting to target me as a sign of thier frustration. I am the pally of the group. I think some are looking at my dps score since we hit enrage, no one said anything but you can tell from the tone of thier voice. Like I said the group wants tanks to be in tank stance all the time, and I tank mostly everything solo up to the 4 Doll Phase. So as a Pld I have to flash, zero dmg, but I still manage to do around 550dps while tanking with shield oath up all the time, and spamming flash. PLD can never compete with a DRK dps in tank stance. But we also changed over to a new voip recently, browser based one. Using it because it is free, and so someone doesn't have to pay for a voip like we used too. But I am having problems with making it work. I got it to work but soon after it stopped working for me, and people started to call me out for not working with the group, for not calling out bombs, and blaming me for wipes. It's not like I am doing this on purpose. But I feel I am still getting blamed for it since it works for everyone else fine, but not me.

Idk what to do. I want to stay for my friend, but the group is starting to feel like a drag, and I am starting to get annoyed. I don't like being blamed for other people's faults, or with me having issues with the new voip that is only working for me half the time, or am I at fault? It doesn't feel like it since I feel like I have to cover a lot of other peoples faults already. Shoot, I taught myself how to use the unwieldly skill Clemancy to heal myself while mting, a skill seen as total crap by the mass amount of tanks on these very forums. Since there are times I do feel I can't trust my own healers half the time. I do offer advice, but I am largely ignored. I offer to play WAR but it is seen less favorable by the healers in the group. I feel like I am wasting my time anymore, and even if we past A2S soon I really don't see this group passing A3S. Group dps is not there, and group corrdination I feel is not there either. I just feel like this group will fall apart anyways if we can't beat A2S soon. If not it will when we get to A3S.

So should I leave or stay? Part of me wants to go since one of our raid days starts 45mins after I get off a 13hr workshift. I rather sleep, then cut into my sleep time to raid anymore. Because of how things are going. I just don't know what to say to my friend in the group.

Sorry for my sloppy typing.