Tales from Duty Finder: Some make you laugh, some make you cry. Let's vent.

[Masquerade]

Us tanks are rare commodities :P Most people play as DPS. As you've likely noticed by now, there's a lot of pressure on tanks in general in this game to be DPS as well as tanks. Tanks are also easily blamed for things (as are healers as well) and overall, people prefer to push out higher damage numbers in general rather than play as a tank. So because there are considerably less tanks than DPS, our queue's are practically instant. Try playing a DPS sometime and you'll notice you'll be sitting on some queue's for an hour. I honestly hate solo queuing as a DPS for this very reason.

While it is nice for a tank to try to be considerate of his entire party, I will also say, that DPS in your party was a jerk... Kicking him would likely of been the better option, but I don't necessarily blame you for leaving either. And in lower level dungeons, if your healer is not a WHM, they may not have protect as one of their 1st cross classes and it might of gotten cut off. So honestly, having a tank that has it is usually a great thing. Dunno where that LNC was even coming from with his statement.

It's like class-warfare in this game man. lol
And the odd thing is, it feels like I would be taking less heat if I was jerk tank with an attitude of "I'm one of the few Tanks; that means you do what I say maggots!"

But I am anarchist tank. Who believes every player is equal in their own rights unless their words prove otherwise.
And would rather remove myself from a bad situation then to try abuse an authority (that I did not even know that I had tell this thread) and strong-arm 2 other people in the group to kick the 3rd in fear of my leaving unless they vote yes and keep me happy.

[vanitaslaughing]

Yeah, DPS are easily replaceable in this game - I should know, I main one. That doesn't mean people should have the attitude of "if they dont do what i want them to do, kickem"; I myself am prone to rather embarrassing mistakes in faceroll content because I stopped paying attention long long ago (I got every DPS and every healer, and almost all tanks to level 60 - I'm rather apathetic at this point whenever I see people deliberately screwing with me when I tank. And yes, DPS deliberately screwing with Tanks are all-too-common).

IMO, you did the right thing by leaving, Masquerade. You willingly took penalty because your enjoyment of the content in that very case was greatly diminished by some hell-bent lancer (scowls, I'm a DRG main). I'd rather leave in that case than start a full-blown argument even after you told them to stop, and I would certainly not be mad had I been in that party; seeing as one of the only full-blown arguments I had in this game was in the Vault, as AST, with a newbie PLD who wore 120 gear, did not dodge a single thing, did not even ATTEMPT to hold aggro, and after we predictably wiped to Charibert 4 times they told me to "heal, you idiot". That was the one single time I absolutely and completely went NUCLEAR on someone because we had not wiped a single time before that due to me keeping the DPS who plucked aggro off me alive, as well as our more than terribad tank. I didn't leave, I growled at the TV and attempted, until after the 10th try I initiated a Vite Abandon because there was no way we'd clear that, ever, due to Mr 120-Dodging-Is-For-Babies bleeding my MP reserves absolutely dry before we even reached the post-Balls phase of the fight. I apologised to the DPS before that, and they just attempted to soothe my nerves because they saw how I did 120% (ha) and it still wasn't enough. I was in a bad mood for DAYS. I should've left then, and I still regret to this day that I didn't just hit that Leave button and went to pet my bunnies for that half an hour of penalty time (kicking newbies from instances is an absolute no-go for me).

Tanks who demands others to do as they say are IMO the absolute worst. Maybe the healer's not comfortable with DPSing. Maybe the DPS are still learning their rotation properly and screw up a little - best thing to do is offer advice if they accept it (my friend and I as tank and healer taught a baby SMN and a NIN I think some basics about their classes in post 50 content in Sohm Al. From rather bumpy it suddenly turned into one of the smoothest, most fun Sohm Al runs I've had while levelling PLD).
Tanks being in demand does not mean they are absolutely and totally required to stay if someone deliberately screws with 'em. There are those who prevail, but you can usually see their enjoyment whittling down, unless they've reached apathy nirvana like one of my friends. Seriously, tearing aggro off him is like bringing down the Chinese Wall, and he doesn't really care and just picks the mob back up.

Anyway, I dunno why this derailment happened, Masquerade was absolutely correct in their decision to not bother with a terrible run due to a lancer having a **** attitude over them using Protect (who even CARES, I say, narrowing my eyes every time a PLD insists on using Protect after I had used it already. In their case, however, the Heal hadn't used Protect, so I won't bat an eyelash).

Back on topic, the quest to Grandmaster of War with Warrior led me to Dragon's Neck today. I froze in terror, because that trial is usually the epitome of terribad for me. Other than Typhon pushing me around lots because I never tanked him before, we downed it in one go. How come the tanking class I like least always gets me into the smoothest, most enjoyable instances of content I normally dread? What kinda shenanigans is Chaos up to these days, what the...

[Mysterysword]

I say "To me, that just sounds like a whole lot of reason for DPS to just relax and let tanks/healers do their jobs. "
and you replay [B]"Seeing as how this means that any underperforming DPS is very easily kicked and replaced, not really. Nobody ever notices when a DPS is doing their job well, either."[/B ....."just relax and let tanks healers do their jobs"....."not really" unless you misunderstood my meaning, then your saying dps can do what they want to.

Well, whatever the case, I never said DPS can do what they want to. I've said what I wanted to say, anyway.

I've played as all 3 roles to level 60. I've had shit heaped on me, been called names and cussed at, no matter what role I was playing or whether or not whatever incident happened was actually my fault. Tank, healer, DPS, none of it makes you immune to abuse, no matter how well you play. I always do the best I can in whatever role I choose, because that's a point of personal pride for me. But things like this will always be inevitable unless you choose to play with a select group of friends, which is difficult to do at the best of times.

[Maerwen]

I don't know whether to cry about this or not.

My boyfriend (WAR), his brother (NIN), and I (SCH) 3 manned Titan. When Titan has about 10ish % HP, I got Goal (for the 5th time). My boyfriend broke me out just as Landslide popped. Fortunately for him, he got out in time. Unfortunately for me, I fell off.

He then just laughed at me saying "never seen you fall off in Titan HM. Lmfao oops my bad."

But they two manned Titan and beat him on the last 10%

[ExKage]

I cannot agree anymore with the mentality that if you are a tank and you feel that you are being treated unfairly or that you do not think you can continue playing with a group, you are free to leave if you so wish. It sucks for the group, I've been there. But if you are unhappy playing and tanking for this group than you are under no obligation to continue doing so. I've had DPS who will pull more than I am up to in runs where they are completely backed up by the healer. When I say something to the effect of "Please don't pull more than what I am feeling up to" and you decide to disrespect that? That is grounds for leaving. Just as when a healer is uncomfortable with how a tank pulls or a DPS. Do not kick someone unless they are actually harassing you, I'll take my penalty no matter what class I am in. I've had to deal with tanks who became a harassing troll once I told him to please not point boss x way and kill us or please move the add this way because where you put it buffs the add. Continued to harass us to get us to kick him so we did even though I hated having to be able to give him that kick without a penalty. Kicked and once was able, reported.

You are not a doormat. No you do not have to make everyone submit to your demands but there's no reason for you to take any unfair treatment. If the others don't speak up, they are just as complicit in that bad behavior.

[B0YRaNmA]

Leave the man alone...

1. Threaten them: Make them respect your privilege and authority before continuing the dungeon. Let the know whos in charge. Halt the dungeon to a complete stop until you get an apology...

For step 1, remember to threaten in a way that is not reportable, meaning...stay calm and keep you threat clean. =)

[Awful]

Nobody said that at all...but if it suits you to believe so be my guest. I dont think you will ever admit that your attitude may not be appropriate. I am a firm believer that karma has a way. So in time we will read about how unfair it was for you to be kicked because you didnt know why or because you were not good enough....although you will say you were.

At any rate...good luck

That's quite the personal attack there karma will get you? The tank dictates the speed of the dungeon and pulls at his/her discretion not the DPS pace, the fact that the DPS made a snide comment that he had to cast Protect? The healer can cast that WHILE they're in combat his attitude was justified if you don't wanna take that crap from people in a random you don't have to, you could have vote kicked the DPS but your enjoyment as a paying customer is first.

You can sit here and be the judge, jury, and executioner all you want because he didn't act the way you wanted? Who pissed in your cheerios? This is for groups who "make you laugh, cry, or vent" all you are doing is crying on the forums because someone didn't agree with you hope you have thick skin. Also the ques aren't even an hour for DPS where are you getting this information? I think the most I've had is 15 minutes for tanks yes it's instant, yes it might take a while to get a new one as he stated he is new so he probably hasn't taken that into account.

So just leave the guy alone he's been very respectful to you and your comments saying stuff like that is just down right offensive i'd never act so inconsiderate saying how I wish karma of all things to get someone to post in another topic how he got the crap end of the stick.

[Maerwen]

Now assuming the group I left duo to that cactuar-mouth lancer (Ironically the dps in that Howling group was also a lancer. But he was funny.) did not find a replacement tank for that group, and just had to sit around for that timer to count down so they could disband without getting that penalty for leaving on their own....I feel bad for this 2 innocent bystanders in the group that just got caught between him and I.

I don't think anyone mentioned this, but there are some ways to fix the situation where tank drops. Like when I'm in a run and the tank drops, I will drop and reque as tank. Yes, I end up in the same party every time I did it. Unless someone in my FC or LS can tank it for me. So its not just relying on someone to que, but its for the party members to maybe ask their friends for help.

PS. As a healer, I don't mind if the PLD cast protect/stoneskin. It helps specially if the DPS likes to stand in "the bads".

[Malicewolf]

It's like class-warfare in this game man. lol
And the odd thing is, it feels like I would be taking less heat if I was jerk tank with an attitude of "I'm one of the few Tanks; that means you do what I say maggots!"

But I am anarchist tank. Who believes every player is equal in their own rights unless their words prove otherwise.
And would rather remove myself from a bad situation then to try abuse an authority (that I did not even know that I had tell this thread) and strong-arm 2 other people in the group to kick the 3rd in fear of my leaving unless they vote yes and keep me happy.

Haha too true. Every class is often at each other's throats to play the blame game on one another. But there's plenty out there who are civil. I usually have a LOT of patience as a tank with others honestly. I've stuck it out in groups way past the point of it being fun anymore, but that was my own personal choice to do so. But even I have had to strong arm a few times as a tank and just sit back and wait. Past the 1st few dungeons, it's not reasonable for DPS to try to clear dungeons anymore without a tank. Unless everyone is very much on point, they won't get past bosses tankless. But if they are that good, USUALLY they aren't the type of a-hats that would piss off their tank in the first place. Especially over something so silly like using protect.

[Ametrine]

Worth pointing out that leaving an instance with a party that isn't full doesn't give you the penalty.

Basically, it saves people from being stuck if someone else DC's.