Tales from Duty Finder: Some make you laugh, some make you cry. Let's vent.

[Vivi_Bushido]

To me a Hi isn't asking for a conversation. It's just being polite and acknowledging the other people in your party.
I find it rude when others don't respond to greetings honestly.

It's not just a greeting through. Your going to consider it rude of them to stop acknowledging anything you say after the greeting is over with. We could begin with hi, and than if you go into a follow up question such as "How're you guys doing today", "Are you running this for relic", "Anyone here new?", or some other thing. You're going to consider it rude of me to just not response at all. Your going to feel like I'm ignoring you. We "those who don't want to talk" just can't win when others expect or rather, demand that we speak for the sake that if we don't, we're either elitists, or being rude.

The simplest thing for me to do if I don't want a conversation is to just not return the greeting at all. Cause to be honest, I find silence to be less rude than saying, "Hello, I don't feel like talking today so I'm not going to use the chat box for this instance." But that might just be me.

[Moomba33]

It's not just a greeting through. Your going to consider it rude of them to stop acknowledging anything you say after the greeting is over with. We could begin with hi, and than if you go into a follow up question such as "How're you guys doing today", "Are you running this for relic", "Anyone here new?", or some other thing. You're going to consider it rude of me to just not response at all. Your going to feel like I'm ignoring you. We "those who don't want to talk" just can't win when others expect or rather, demand that we speak for the sake that if we don't, we're either elitists, or being rude.

The simplest thing for me to do if I don't want a conversation is to just not return the greeting at all. Cause to be honest, I find silence to be less rude than saying, "Hello, I don't feel like talking today so I'm not going to use the chat box for this instance." But that might just be me.

I don't mind when people don't respond to follow up questions. I understand that not everyone wants a conversation.
It's the not acknowledging the other people in the group at all that I take issue with.
Where I live its common to greet others as you pass them on the sidewalk, an interaction that lasts less than a second.
The idea of not acknowledging the people you'll be working with for a few minutes especially after they've acknowledged you is rude to me.

[Vivi_Bushido]

I don't mind when people don't respond to follow up questions. I understand that not everyone wants a conversation.
It's the not acknowledging the other people in the group at all that I take issue with.
Where I live its common to greet others as you pass them on the sidewalk, an interaction that lasts less than a second.
The idea of not acknowledging the people you'll be working with for a few minutes especially after they've acknowledged you is rude to me.

Real life is entirely different than an internet chat box. Let's try not to compare the two as they're not same thing.

[Moomba33]

Real life is entirely different than an internet chat box. Let's try not to compare the two as they're not same thing.

I guess we have to agree to disagree then. To me acknowledging someone you're playing with isn't different from acknowledging someone in real life.
It's all just being polite in my opinion.

[SilkaN]

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Tbh, I'd just like to acknowledge that me and my random party members aren't just mindless bots that are in for the grind (even though that's why we are doing roulettes).
Also, we will disagree on this, but I consider complete silence to be ruder than a simple "Sorry, I'm not up for a conversation". I'm not one to start a conversation in a dungeon, but I wouldn't find such a statement to be rude. This stuff is mostly sorted out during the first few seconds after loading anyway, so I don't consider it a big waste of time.

[Vivi_Bushido]

I guess we have to agree to disagree then. To me acknowledging someone you're playing with isn't different from acknowledging someone in real life.
It's all just being polite in my opinion.

Tbh, I'd just like to acknowledge that me and my random party members aren't just mindless bots that are in for the grind (even though that's why we are doing roulettes).
Also, we will disagree on this, but I consider complete silence to be ruder than a simple "Sorry, I'm not up for a conversation". I'm not one to start a conversation in a dungeon, but I wouldn't find such a statement to be rude. This stuff is mostly sorted out during the first few seconds after loading anyway, so I don't consider it a big waste of time.

I understand. It makes sense to me.

Thank you the discussion. It's always nice to see how others view such situations differently.

[Moomba33]

I understand. It makes sense to me.

Thank you the discussion. It's always nice to see how others view such situations differently.

Discussion is always good.
Apologies if I came off as being judgmental of you. I understand we all have different expectations for online interactions.

[cammi]

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I don't follow up after the hi tho. That's where I think the difference lies. All I normally say is "hi" OR unless I'm on a new class I never played then it's " New to this class/learning" And that's pretty much it. But I did say it's just me in my other reply. In the runs I had where noone said anything it was always a bad run, so yes I'm jaded in that and I like to know I'm playing with actual people instead of bots or wannabe elitist. And I know those are limited thoughts but it's the first thing that comes to my mind.. I'm just jaded.

[Moomba33]

A few weeks ago I was doing Ozma and the Meteors popped up during his circle form. One person dropped their meteor up front instead of at the back of the platform so I ran to the back to try to distance myself from the impact zones. The group mostly survived but I stayed back there instead of moving up after the meteors, causing me to be knocked off the platform by the next Holy.
Apologies to my co-healer who had to rescue me from my own stupidity and keep the group up in the meantime.

[Miste]

I myself HATE silent parties cause it just screams to me " I'M AN ELITIST AND YOU'RE ON MY TIME"

I like to know I'm playing with actual people instead of bots or wannabe elitist. And I know those are limited thoughts but it's the first thing that comes to my mind.. I'm just jaded.

Someone is elitist just because they don't talk? That's a new one...I think I've seen everything now.

I honestly find it rude you make that assumption about other players with nothing to back up the assumption since you don't even know that player at all.

You really shouldn't take it that seriously or personally. If you think its rude yeah np I understand that, but assuming people are elitist for the sole reason of them not typing anything? Come on now. Rudeness can go both ways so you can't really be mad about someone not talking when you are being judgemental and rude behind their backs.