Quote Originally Posted by AllegroSymphonic View Post
Here is my thing. You are a healer. Thats it. Theres a reason you have a dang green background for your class/job. I do not make myself DPS no matter the cost. If you get yelled at for DPSing in endgame stuff, thats not your fault. You are a HEALER not a dps. Its like when I see Tanks with all Slaying gear and i get tired of having to overheal to keep up because they refuse to be a dang tank. DPSing is a side thing, not a required one. Its nice to have, but don't feel forced to make up for overall low party DPS.
Refusing to DPS is one thing, but also refusing to actually heal a bit more - Which you explicitly mentioned it's your job - as well? The tank's job is to attract attention of monsters and take damage. The moment you get assaulted by everything and their mum, then you can complain the tank's not doing their job. If you're not healing a tank because they're a bit more damage oriented and you refuse to keep them alive, you're the one not doing your job.