Am I doing something wrong or is there somewhere...better for me??

[Gamer3427]

Simple fact of the matter is that while there are plenty of good people out there in FFXIV, most of them are going in with groups of friends rather than relying purely on DF groups. The only real advice I can give you is to have a thick skin when dealing with the random people out there who want to rush everything and complain about every little thing that goes wrong or that they don't like. Other than that, try joining a good Free Company that feels the same way about the game as you do......

I've been playing since about the same time as you, (started in early February), and never had an MMO hold my interest for long prior to XIV. On the other hand, I consider myself more of a Vet than half the people out there who've been playing MMOs or even XIV in general longer, because most of them only play the game to experience one aspect of it such as DPSing or Raids, and will only look at other content as "a means to an end". I'm by no means an "actual vet", but I find that often times I'm explaining simple concepts to players with a lot more play time than me, just because I took the time to learn it while they bypassed it because it wasn't relevant to them at the time. To me, someone who is a veteran of something isn't just "experienced", but is someone who knows how to put that experience to use....

[Deebs15]

You start to see how this game has sort of a rhythm with content and when people are playing what. Maybe when the next expansion comes out and I can learn everything at the same time as everyone else it'll be a little different.

You guys are all rad...I really appreciate the tips

[Makeda]

You start to see how this game has sort of a rhythm with content and when people are playing what. Maybe when the next expansion comes out and I can learn everything at the same time as everyone else it'll be a little different.

Sadly it is unlikely to work like this.

I've been in many MMOs and the pattern repeats every time.

There's always a beta, closed or open, and people always get a massive guide ready and... either break the NDA and post it, or post it the moment the NDA is lifted.

- Even if they post that massive guide the day AFTER the expansion goes live... by the time people hit that content, even if that very same day, you will see folks getting booted out of groups for not knowing the content already. Sometimes even if a guide has not been posted - if you're a tank you can get booted for not having learned it during the closed beta you didn't even have access to...

Its actually BETTER right now than it tends to be around the time when expansions launch in MMOs. New expansions and young MMOs bring all the worst-attitude players back into active play... where they zerg stuff like crazy, find and exploit glitches, exploit bugs in trading systems, and pay a LOT to RMT sellers... fueling a lot of account hacking, accusations, and flame wars...

I've been booted out of groups before for refusing to use TOS-violating exploits. In fact in Guild Wars 2 such booting is the norm anytime someone finds such an exploit...
- and the people who have that kind of motive, are most active around launch time of new content...

Right now is the time you want to find a nice friendly guild, and start building up a long term friendship with them, so that when all the really amazingly nasty players come back next major release of something... you can play with your buddies and ignore it all.

The worst thing you can do for your morale, is to be stuck guildless (free-company-less) and friendless in a new or old MMO around launch time of new content. That is a very quick path to burnout and bad vibes.

Start friending people now... and insulate yourself.

[AskaRay]

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Ahhh yeah I remember the first day World of Darkness was out, maybe two hours after the server had gone live again...
"What do you mean you guys don't know how to beat Cerberus???"

luckily I think it was a joke because they stayed quiet for the rest of the run. However real people like that do exist

[Amiaze]

Simple fact of the matter is that while there are plenty of good people out there in FFXIV, most of them are going in with groups of friends rather than relying purely on DF groups.

This, more or less. It's even worse if you're going into DF as a healer or tank, because anything that kinda sorts goes somewhat wrong is automatically your fault.

I visited Brynhildr when trying to decide what server to transfer to. They seemed like nice enough people, and I even got a tell from someone asking me to let them know if I did decide to transfer there. Try making friends on the server or inviting your friends into the game rather than relying on the duty finder. You never know what type of person you'll get in the duty finder, but it's notorious for being a dreadful place for newcomers.

If you do decide to transfer, Adamantoise is a really nice place. I transferred there from a smaller server and have no regrets. Immediately saw random server-wide RP events, received expensive items for free during the Moonfaire Event, and many people gathered to honor a player that died on the server. I'm not going to lie and say that it's perfect. but I've made a point of putting all my new characters there.

[Deebs15]

It's even worse if you're going into DF as a healer or tank, because anything that kinda sorts goes somewhat wrong is automatically your fault.

That might have been the reason I stopped using PLD as my main. I'll go back in with a fresh outlook and see if I can't make nice with some people who want to me run new things (new for me at least)

[AskaRay]

That might have been the reason I stopped using PLD as my main. I'll go back in with a fresh outlook and see if I can't make nice with some people who want to me run new things (new for me at least)

Yeah tanking I feel is the most "stressful" job in the DF.
Honestly I won't go in DF by myself as tank unless I really, really need to.