Very late in the Dark Knight story line, you seek out help understanding the power that the Warrior of Light and Sidurgu possess. At first, you go to the dragons of Anyx Trine, but they do not fully comprehend our abilities and instead suggest we speak with the moogles of Moghome. In the next quest, we do just that, and we get treated to something very interesting. Rielle gets "kidnapped" by the moogles to provoke Sidurgu and the Warrior of Light into fighting them, which is humorously pretty much Moggle Mog (Hard)'s first phase, complete with music. After you beat them senseless, they return Rielle, but also mention through song that our powers manifest from love. Sidurgu at first passes it off as nonsense, and Rielle calls him out on how he has always acted selfishly since she met him. You then get to hear him not only admit that Rielle is right, but also, later at the Forgotten Knight, you hear from him about why he became a Dark Knight: His entire tribe was slaughtered by the Ishgardians out of fear that they were a new type of dragon. Sidurgu however was saved when his mentor Dark Knight swooped in and rescued him. He then accepts that while he was seemingly embracing noble ideals afterwards, he was mostly fueled by a thirst for vengeance.
In the final quest of the storyline, you wrap things up nicely by slaying every one Countess Ystride throws at you, up to herself, who you and Sidurgu show mercy towards after beating her within an inch of her life. Sidurgu admits that while he wants to kill her, he won't, because she is Rielle's mother. As the three begins to walk away, the countess declares that she will never stop hunting Rielle, believing it to be the will of the Fury. Rielle, too disgusted to even see Ystride as her mother any more, prays for her and gives her the traditional last rights of Ishgard, giving Sidurgu permission to end Ystride's tragic life, which he does so, but begrudgingly.
Afterwards, in Ishgard, Rielle decides to stay with Sidurgu, on one condition, he has to be more honest with her. Rielle and the Warrior of Light share in laughter as Sidurgu reluctantly agrees. And then he says that he will stay in Ishgard as a defender of the people, a true one, much like his mentor. And then asks the Warrior of Light what they stand for, friends, Eorzea, yourself, or something else.
Now, the important details here, is that afterwards, you can ask Sidurgu about being a Dark Knight, and he gives you the standard shocked preface before explaining it to you. At the end of his explanation, he admits that he fears the moogles may have been onto something. When you look back at every single Dark Knight quest before Fray is bested, ultimately, you are still doing good deeds out of love for the land you live in. Fray doesn't like that you still, regardless of how irritated you are, do these things, and while under Fray's influence, you do the heroic deeds, but with great abandon, recklessly slaying your foes simply to bask in their fear and blood. However, upon learning that Fray is much more than Fray appears to be, you fight back, selflessly defending the now helpless soldiers of Whitebrim Front. The entire battle is very vague in what exactly is happening, but we can imply from Fray's dialogue as well Lord Drillemont's dialogue that what happened was very much real and that they truly did fight beside you to best your inner dark desires. Note that in the final quest with Fray, you are truly acting out of love for the country you live in, you stopped yourself from harming people who were truly innocent, who were worried for you, a hero who had saved them before. We end up seeing similar themes with Sidurgu. We watch as he is a bloodthirsty killer, acting upon his desires under the pretense of a noble cause, much like the Warrior of Light did prior. And in the end, he ultimately realizes that his thirst for vengeance, his thirst for blood, was simply making yet more sad orphans like himself, and was hurting someone he very likely considers as an adopted child. Ultimately, Sidurgu doesn't wish to kill Ystride because he doesn't wish to inflict such a deep pain onto Rielle, a pain he is all too familiar with, and it is likely he wished to not kill Ystride out of love for Rielle and not a sense of mercy. This in turn explains why, in the post-quest dialogue, he mentions the moogles again, Sidurgu doesn't want to admit it, the Warrior of Light doesn't want to admit it, we the player base don't want to admit it, but a Dark Knight's power isn't from our darker desires, nor is it from some possessive spirit, but rather, it's simply from love.