Self-Parser

[Krylo]

I've been in a party where the tank literally did all the wrong things in pushing their parser numbers before /leaving after the second wipe on the last boss of Fractal. New tank arrived and we finished the dungeon without a second thought.

To be fair, in my experience, if someone is being a dick about anything in reasonably easy content (like expert roulette), it's generally because they're not good at the game themselves and are trying to cover up their own inadequacies by attacking others. Good players just carry harder in DF rather than attack their party members. (Edit: I had the same issue with a healer in fractal, although he didn't spout numbers, he did call all of us terrible for. . . some reason, cuss us out through two wipes on the last boss, kicked him, tank got a healer from his FC to join in progress, and we cleared it super easily)

That said, I agree with most of what you said, but if someone asks how you know they were doing poorly or gets confrontational you can't tell them how you know because parsers are illegal so you pretty much just have to kick them. It was one of the points I made in there--it's easier to help people if numbers are available and able to be discussed. With numbers being unable to be discussed, it's often easier to kick someone than try to broach the subject of their subpar DPS at all.

But yes, regardless of how legal or not numbers are, don't be a dick about it. Offer help in a polite and respectful manner, if at all. Do so coming at it from the point of view that this person is worth helping and can do better--not from the point of view that they are trash and need to stop sucking.