I always seem to get two kinds of parties if I am PUGing my ESO grind:

The ones who LOVE my aggressive tanking as we melt mobs and clear in 15 minutes

Or

The ones who get pissy that I am pulling everything and want me to be in full fending gear and pull small because they are "Not trying to do a Savage Neverreap run"

Typically I get comms and kind words from people who raid. They understand, notice, and appreciate what I am doing and how much of a difference a solid tank makes (usually healers but I get a lot of love from SMNs too). Casual players tend to not notice how much I am actually pushing my class and just enjoy me keeping aggro.

At the end of the day I really don't care what everyone is thinking of me. I run everything to the best of my abilities and attempt to push everyone around me to their playing limits.

Some people like it. Some don't.