@ WinterLuna
I fully agree, and was only citing the reason so people are seeing that both sides do have a story. And to not be so quick to point the finger on who is being selfish. (i hate seeing people being rude, there is no reason for it)(ps not saying you are rude). Again something I forgot to add, is the player is an ALT they know the fight and beat it on their main character.
@ Everyone else
I think brill_ and thunder_cat_smash need to take a step back and take a deep breath. I'm not judging either of you, but please stop playing a victem just because you have bad luck with party forming. If it is taking that long, ask the members of free company or any linkshell you belong to and ask when people are free to help. Disagreeing with an idea using the victem card, and making statements that people don't help is rude and is just a weak arguement against a more improved Party finder system.
A player has a right to start a party with whatever rules they like. The point of PARTY FINDER is to make groups of like-minded players to do and beat content. It is not meant as a free pass to join any party you wish and change the rules of that party.
I do agree that it woulds be nice if more players would help out and join learning parties to get more people past content to farm, but you can't force it, nor should you. Joining a farm party as a first timer can be considered rude, as your forcing a group to help you. That is alot of the reason people use the "selfish" card. Talk to the leaders first and tell them what is going on, they might be willing to help you, if not again don't force it. You could ask if they know anyone that can help you.
People tend to forget a big part of MMORPG is communication and networking. Joining a free company, and a linkshell or two is a big first step in that. Thing is though, don't always ask for help, help others as well. Doing so will help your cases out in getting people to join your parties.
What the OP is asking is for a party leader to have more tools to build parties better, which i fully agree we need. The party finder system is pretty bare, and SE could make it more customizable with more tools and features to help players start and join the groups they are looking for. We also should get the tab content faster. Every content that gets added should be put in the drop down tab, as refer to coment just makes it hard to find stuff. I say this because content is filtered by the drop down table, not any comment really.