FFXIV, is the most anti-social MMO game I have ever played. That is a real honest statement.
You must not have ever played WoW then.

And yes, FFXIV *does* feel very asocial, but not for the reasons you've given. I've elaborated on that in other threads, and this is not the place for that discussion.

I'd also suggest going back to EQ, but if I remember right there's a reason you're not there. You have a reputation.