Not really your fault. As karateorangutang said, most people you will meet on you way to Ishgard will be 20-40 ilvls higher than you. Close to the end of 2.x MSQ, you will get an i110 HQ weapon, but until then your best weapon will be the i115 NQ one from the marketboard. Dont waste your gil on the HQ weapon. Once you have the i110 axe from the story quest, things will become better. Until then, most people won't care, if you can keep hate or not .

And if anyone blames you, just ignore them. They have no idea, what it means to play a new character in 2 years old content .