Yeah, before you come down on tanks, what about the healers who aren't doing damage, but also aren't healing me? They're just not casting anything at all. Why wouldn't I only be using vit gear?

With healers that I know and trust, I'll be using str gear, balanced to the fight and what I can take without being too much for them to heal, but in a pug, I'm gearing and playing like a tank, and my deliverance button doesn't even exist.

Also, if anything is dying too slow, the damage dealers in your groups need work. Avoiding damage and following mechanics ofc are their top priority, but you have to be able to do these things while also putting out damage and getting things killed, especially with all the dps races in the game.