The truth about the community of the game and the forums.

[dekal]

At no point did I say they were, this is already becoming a lost cause, I wanted to help people understand eachother, I don't mind your criticism. I am looking to find common ground.

You said "...I really didn't want to do anything, people I meet in game are normally for the most part nice(: I love it, made many friends just through dungeons, but... the forum, is so toxic, not because of whatever..." I am just clarifying and adding that in the game there are people that will be "toxic", too. I met great people thru the forums and I am friends with them in game if we got lucky enough to be in the same server otherwise we just use 1-2 threads to keep in touch.

Those are the same people that you will find in game. Who said that may be you are talking to someone in game that is cool and nice with you and your group, but come to the forums and others will find him/her toxic / I met people that don't even use their own square enix account to make threads/posts on the forums/.

You say you want to find a common ground, to understand each other. That is kind of impossible. you will find that we will understand just a part of what you say while others will agree 100% and another group that disagree with you completely.

I agree with you that there're people we all consider bad / good people according to our morals and standards. I agree with you, but you want to try to say you want love and peace 100% with every single person that is just not possible. Another thing you need to understand too is that we are influenced by our emotions and if someone got a bad day, they will reflect that state to whoever he/she gets in contact. The same can be said if someone got an awesome day.

Debates were made to see who agrees with our ideas and who doesn't. Of course, some people will overreact /letting themselves be influenced by their feelings/ and began to say bad things. If other posters get offended by it, then the debate is eradicated and start the nonsense fights that bring nothing good.

[Yunona]

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I know how it works as I mention its common for disagreements, however we will find common ground one day, it will not be impossible. I discussed this with my husband who also plays, it takes time to make friends even here but still its not gonna be easy but you gotta try, its also like this, "people from different servers will not act as they do on the server as they do on the forums."