What if you live in Tokyo? I guess because I only play as a tank I rarely get to see other tanks except for the 8 man content, which all I usually do for that is trial roulette. I don't bad mouth people at all I don't even get snippy at anyone, why? Its a game if I die I'm not going to go after the healer because I died, even if its clear that they messed up, but at that I'm usually to busy doing things to notice.
I only use the DF for runs, mainly roulette now and if I need to add some extra tomes. I have seen the comments though about how long the que took to get in, when I got in instantly. I never experienced it from the other side. Sometimes if I do an early morning trial run it takes a little bit but no more than 10 minutes. I do get some random requests sometimes from people to do a dungeon. I actually got one the other day from someone wanting to do a guildhest, I happily did it and I will do it for anyone who asks and I have the time to do it. We are not all this evil egotistical prima donnas people label us as, that can go for anyone. If they are like that, they were that way before playing as a tank.