It's differences in play style. Regardless what you felt about the tank skipping pulls, pulling for him is considered rude. Only thing you can really do in a situation like this, is ask nicely if he will pull, if he does then great, if he doesn't then just deal with it till you get out of the dungeon. You only have to run with that person once, you'll likely never see him again. But he isn't obligated to pull everything for you if you ask unfortunately, but you don't need to harass him over it by pulling all those things for him. That could make everyone's job harder in the case that the tank can't handle the load you're trying to set for him. So I wouldn't say that kick was illegit. You're basically fighting minor rudeness with rudeness.