I really hope your personal issues are cleared up soon and that things get better for you!

But as for what you asked, I honestly found that the best way to handle tome grinding is to just queue up for PvP and go do something else while I hate. Write, read, draw, read a book, something. That way I'm not actually *on* the game for the entire day just for a tome grind that I'll be repeating for...for...a very long time to come...