Quote Originally Posted by Egnasya View Post
Generally I do not think it is our place to judge how others play, at least not as long as things go fine. If that's not the case you may start giving advice (!), not before. Who cares if you agree on how Fred Anonymous uses his CDs as long as that doesn't wipe you? I certainly do not, and I don't want others to judge my play style just as well. There is no definite right or wrong to these things, as much as some want everyone to play by the doctrine of class guides.
I hold my party to a higher standard than simply "Did they wipe us?" My expectations in a party are that players should know their job fundamentals and be able to handle mechanics. If mechanics are a problem, that's one thing, we can talk about that and work out what needs to be done. It's your own responsibility to know your role and be able to perform when you take it out to play.

For example:
You and Phil need to make 20 sandwiches by the end of the day. You make a dozen, Phil only makes six. Phil has made sandwiches before, but never this kind, so he's not sure how to handle the mechanics. You show him how, he gets better, and bangs out two more sandwiches by the end of the day. Great, duty complete.

In another example, you and Phil need to make 20 sandwiches by the end of the day. You make a dozen, Phil makes... three. You ask Phil, "What gives?" He tells you he's not feeling it, he might work harder if the boss shows up but expects you to make the last five sandwiches. Then he tells you about the sweet bonus he got last week for outstanding performance, and links it in the chat box just to show off. Is Phil performing admirably right now? No, he's being a significant detriment to your efforts.

Complacently accepting laziness because eventually, it will get done, is going to be putting additional strain on someone else in your party, whether a lazy tank affects the healer, or lazy DPS affects the other DPS. My expectation is that everyone should handle the weight of their role equally, and when someone disregards that with blatant, unapologetic laziness, I'm not going to shrug, hike up my pants, and carry them up the mountain. No, if they want to get paid, they need to put in some work. I'm not asking for a raid quality workout, just have a modicum of respect for your fellow members and actually pick up your own slack instead of expecting others to.