Thread: Not sure what to do.

I love this game, but recently I feel like I want to delete my character and quit. My issue is that I feel like I suck so badly at endgame and when I do attempt it, I feel constant pressure to not be terrible so that I don't have to deal with people yelling at me, ridiculing me, or excluding me from fights. However, I'm much more critical of my mistakes, especially if it's a mistake on a fight I should already know by heart. Commendations are another nightmare. I try to play my best and getting commended for it affirms that I did well, so it bugs me a lot when I give it my all and don't get recognized for it. That said, I know that there are others who try equally as hard and commendations are limited. Still, trying to do a lot of the endgame stuff and carrying my weight makes me very anxious, and I can't stop thinking of myself as a worthless excuse for a black mage when I mess up. Has anyone else dealt with similar feelings?

The solution is simply to find a friendly Linkshell and/or FC and learn endgame with them.

Git Gud
:P

Originally Posted by Canadane

As a tank, I'm usually the centerpiece of any and all screwups. Most of which end up not being my fault!

I am pretty sure this game is very fair when it comes to making sure it is not ALL the tank's fault. There are plenty of different check, on healer or tank, but a lot of endgame content is DPS check, DPS need to kill adds, DPS need to deal with mechanic, DPS need to click something, DPS need to avoid AOE and watch the tether, and go run between orbs so healer not getting hit. DPS has a lot to do, but derp dadidumb DPS think it is so easy to play DPS, ignore all the mechanic, can't dodge anything, random buttons masher, and failing the raid over and over cuz their DPS is far too low. Somehow it is the tank and healer's fault... amazing.

Originally Posted by Canadane

As a tank, I'm usually the centerpiece of any and all screwups. Most of which end up not being my fault!
Anyone who mains a tank and has played with people they don't know, or even those that play with friends, I'm sure would tell you that DPS generally have the most lenient roles in the game.
If anything, use the criticism, even if mean spirited, to better yourself. I wouldn't be the tank I would be today if it weren't for the enmity we generate from our peers.

As an aspiring tank...I agree wholeheartedly.

Commendations are a joke, don't even pay attention to them.
It automatically goes to tank/healer a lot of the time
And people too lazy to commend anyone unless you done something very impressive and just exit once they get the 5 they needed for challenge log (I'm guilty of this)

PUGs/PF/DF tend to be more hostile than FC/Friends so expect it.
If your FC is really mean, find a new one.
But do understand, people do get frustrated wiping over and over again especially same mistakes, when they have the raid/primal on farm and is just there to teach new people.