The thing about Party Finder is, you have the complete rights when you start a party finder to put whatever conditions or expectations you want out there. If I were to start up a 7 man minimum iLvl Titan EX, well, you certainly don't have to join that; and I doubt you'd walk in and start insisting I make it just a regular Titan EX clear. Hell, you'd recognise that'd be pretty rude to do. You wouldn't join a Dzemael first room farm and ask them to run the full thing instead. etc etc

I get the frustration with "but there's no learning parties" or "all the active parties aren't welcoming", but whether you think it's elitist or not, people can set whatever conditions they like when using Party Finder - player skill, gearing, attitudes, etc all fall under that. If you don't like their terms, you are just as capable start your own group with your own terms.