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    Noxifer's Avatar
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    C'alih Tia
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    Phoenix
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    Scholar Lv 70
    Quote Originally Posted by CrystalRainbow View Post
    This is a ONLINE GAME.... PEOPLE don't socializing.

    You need Real life contact for that. It doesn't happen online.....
    Can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not.

    Yes, online socializing can be just as exhausting or anxiety-inducing as real life socializing.

    For me, it's exhausting, but not to the degree that real life socializing is, primarily because I can interrupt it at any time I need to, going "brb" or "afk for a bit" or "sorry, need to do stuff, bbl", and people won't look at me weirdly for it. With real life socializing, the only "brb" I can do is to go home. Or kick people out if they're visiting (with the added social stress of 'how do I kick people out politely?'). Or, if it's people I know well and who know my issues, take a break and go bury myself in a book for a while and ignore the people around me (sometimes even going to a separate room to do so). But that's not something I can readily do with people I know less well.
    Online socializing doesn't need to be planned to the same degree; I don't have to figure out how to get to my friends, or when they have time to come over, or how much I need to clean my apartment before they do. I can just sit down by my PC, log on, and say hi to the people who are there. And I can socialize in as big or small chunks as I can handle. =)

    (It's also less exhausting because I can take a little bit longer to interpret what people are saying; it doesn't have to happen in real time. And if there are mistakes in my interpretation, people will happily explain what they DID mean and not look at me like I'm stupid for not automatically understanding because their body language should have told me what it meant. Doesn't work for people with body language dyslexia xD)
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    Last edited by Noxifer; 04-10-2016 at 02:00 PM.