Going off of what Zfz said, yep - I'm kind of a sensitive person, but I also like to help out the group as much as I can, and protect them if I can. That is why I leveled PLD before my current main WHM. However, as many have said, it is often the party itself that is more difficult to deal with than the actual monsters ^_^v Communication is key, and yep - I think trying to help newer tanks to build some confidence instead of tear them down would do tons to help create a better environment to foster more DF tanks. This, and also, coming from my NIN and BRD, all dps need to remember that there is such a thing as an aggro bar that you always see on whatever mob you're targeted on (well...BLM and other AoE types may need to switch through mobs to see it on all) -- manage your hate...it shows you're a good player and working as a team instead of a 'OMG I must do all the DMG!!!' while ignoring a newer tank having aggro issues ^^