Personally as a guy who's been in two different servers it's mostly the same. (it's not bad at all)

Although here is my point of view even though it wasn't asked.
A few random tells/ friend requests from RMT once in a while shouldn't matter & shouldn't be a factor on transferring or comparing at all. I personally treat RMT tells as NPC chatter in the chatlog and friend requests who are RMT just stalkers that want your gorgeous butt.

Yeah all in all if you can change your perspective from my post then yay : D
If you don't agree or you are just too bothered to ignore tells that is just pure nonsense then I wish you the best o/ (not trying to be sassy at all honestly)