Disagreeing with you =/= burning you at the stake. Disagreeing with you =/= being angry. You made some pretty broad statements, and they've been refuted. That's all. In any case, even if you chose FFXIV for the gameplay you need to understand that it's a very story driven MMO, and "because lore" is a very real justification for a lot of things you may not like. If encounters are gated behind other encounters because lore, that's just the way it's gonna be.
You don't need to do Coil to do Alexander. That's already been announced. We don't know yet if you need to clear the current extreme mode primals to access Ravana EX. My guess is going to be no, since ours are currently split into two tiers (Garuda/Titan/Ifrit, Leviathan/Mog/Ramuh/Shiva) for the sake of greater accessibility. It seems more likely that the Heavensward primals will be separate from the ARR primals, and simply have it be optional content.
People always seem to come back to the old chestnut, "I have no problem clearing, but I can't find seven other people that can also do it." The fact is, you can find them. You simply have to look. Yes, you're going to have to expend effort getting to know people. It's an MMO. That's pretty much what it's all about. Ask your FC. Join linkshells. Go be social. Hell, shout in Mor Dhona. Jump into Party Finders for things you do know how to do. Get to know people, and ask if they can help you. Keep an eye out for Party Finders for the content you want to learn. Put up Party Finders of your own if you don't see any. Watch a guide while you wait for the party to fill. Shout in Mor Dhona some more. Keep at it till your party fills. People won't help you if they don't realize you exist, so go out there and proclaim it in every way you can think of. "HEY! I'm here and I'd really like to learn this! Who wants to learn with me?" Clears don't just fall into your lap! Go out there and get them.