For the WHM, DPSing is important, but it sounds like they were fucking up and should have held off a bit if you were dying. For the BLM, I believe he was in the right. He's the only LB that matters in that party, and it helps clear crap faster. For the BRD, it would be nice to follow your targeting order, but I'm also not sure how you lost threat to A BARD (unless you're a PLD pre-40, then my condolences, those levels before Shield Oath suck). Like really, Flash or Overpower 2-3 times, you now have significant threat on everything.