Best best is to just try and find a group of people on a server (any server) which you get along with. I had the fortune to have such a group of people on Balmung, but most of them were Americans, and me being in Europe made it hard to do group stuff. Ended up transferring to Phoenix after checking out both Odin and Phoenix. At the time Odin was closed for transfers, which made my choice easy, but it was a good choice in the end. Was again lucky to find a bunch of great people on Phoenix, and I usually run content with them. I hardly ever sign up for DF solo, and PF I don't use much either, unless I know other people from my FC/LS are already in a party that's up on PF.

If you end up moving to Phoenix, feel free to send me a tell, I'm usually up for doing things as long as I'm not already doing something