Raids: The Unwritten Rule?

[Kikoten]

Hello.

I've recently had an experience in a World of Darkness raid where I became the center of accusation for someone in my alliance. Allow me to explain:

I queued as a WHM. In an instant, the queue popped, and it turned out that I joined a party in progress.

I used the wormhole device to teleport my way to the group's current location: the second(?) or third(?) boss. I was, of course, gated out. As I watched on, I performed a merry step-dance as my new party swiftly and effectively took down the boss.

The gate dropped.

I joined up with the party as we ran on to the next encounter. There, we took down the boss, and here's where it began. A piece of loot came up.

I moused over the loot, saw a bunch of green numbers, saw the word "Healing," and noticed it was an upgrade. Because I'm trying to gear up beyond Daystar in preparation for Heavensward, I instinctively clicked "Need" without thinking.

I won the piece.

The other healer in the group told me that I suck, gave me an angry emoticon, and left.

Okay, he must've been farming for the loot. I wanted to apologize, but he just left too quickly.

I was then told that I "stole his loot." And that I "better be on the ball and not fuck this up" during the upcoming boss, being I supposedly stole the other healer's loot and drove him away.

So my question is this: Do raids have an unwritten rule, where if you join a group in progress, you can't roll on upgrades? Is it considered "stealing" to outroll someone?

[Kirito]

I see. And I have not heard of that rule. Perhaps you joined a free company party or pf party that was grinding WoD for loot. In that case they should have told you.

[Iromi]

If you fought and participated in defeating the boss I do not see the problem. He isn't entitled to gear..you did your fair share of work too.

[Gralna]

No, other healer was just being a drama queen, and rest of your party wasn't much better. If a piece of gear is an actual upgrade for you, imo, you have highest priority for it over other people who want it for glamour/seals/desynth/etc.

[Tam_Hawkins]

I wouldn't worry if I were you, as you both healed you both have a well deserved right to roll on the loot.

[Kikoten]

Thanks. I wasn't sure if I broke any certain taboos set by the community.

[Riepah]

If you rolled on loot dropped by a boss that you didn't participate in killing as you were locked out, it'd be wrong. But since you rolled on loot dropped by a boss you actually helped defeat, it's totally okay. You didn't do anything wrong.

[Kallera]

No there isn't some unwritten rule regarding when to lot on drops(besides, you came in to fill a hole in their party, which may or may not contain other people from df).
Leaving in a huff because you didn't get the drop you wanted though...that's inconsiderate.

[Dualblade]

The fact that A.) It was an upgrade, and B.) You had joined in progress, meaning if they called it and didn't tell you after you joined since you wouldn't know that, they are just a bunch of twits. I'd say don't worry bout it too much.

[Woggers]

If you rolled on the drop for the boss that you're locked out of, yeah I can understand why the other healer was upset. But if you participated fully in the fight l, you have just as much right to that drop as the other guy. Granted this is the good Sam way and not everyone thinks this way.