Quote Originally Posted by Kemiko View Post
Now, I main WAR and she enjoys being the center of attention and as a result, tanks. She finds WAR more fun than PLD, so she plays WAR. I have every job at least i106 so I can fill in any gap she needs when doing something for the first time. We get into Garuda HM so she can do her relic quest. We have a full pre-form party of 8 and get in. I'm healing. WHM, i106 (which is 4 ilvs lower than any ilv sync'd content). Just one Medica II and all hell breaks loose. She's struggling to establish hate and I'm standing right next to her, watching as she does everything right. She's in all STR accessories, pops Infuriate, Unchained & berserk. Garuda has dancing edge debuff and she's spamming butcher's block combo. It takes her 3 full rotations before Garuda is off me. And I just stood there. Ready to just die and get raised so I'd lose all that enmity and I think, what the crap? I did ONE skill. And someone who's i71 and spec'd to deal damage struggled. If this bled down into low-level dungeons the people that those dungeons were made for would be the ones to suffer. And I pity the people meeting anyone who actually doesn't want to help them getting into the LV50 dungeons that just barely meet the entry requirements because, i110 is not low enough.
So let me get this straight. She's i71 working on the relic, which means she's likely to have less than i80 for a weapon and you're i106 and likely have i90+ staff, probably even i110. She's trying establish aggro, as you said, and from the rest of the skill usage and buffs description the battle has just started and...you popped medica 2. Probably the WORST skill in whm's arsenal when it comes to playing ball with tank's aggro management (yes, it's not just the tank's job). And THEN you just stood there for 7+ seconds instead of cutting your enmity in half with SoS.

You basically sabotaged your own wife's attempt, you know? She may be trying her hardest and trying to do everything right but I'm not even sure you're even qualified to judge her war performance.