Is there some unspoken rule to not use Esuna/Leech?

[HakuroDK]

That's not really fair. While a healer might choose not to do it, oftentimes they are making multiple choices at once and your paralysis is low priority.

Healer choices often look like:

1. Keep the tank up.
2. Keep the dps who is at 10% life up.
3. Avoid one shot AOE.
4. Get rid of your non-lethal status debuff

You better believe that your debuff is not going to be dispelled until the very end, if at all....

That's not really fair either. You're assuming everyone is always at low health in content and healers are always under fire from one-shotting AoEs.

I understand if a healer is too busy healing to esuna my paralysis. I get that. But if a healer is standing there under no threat of danger and everyone's HP is high and in no danger of taking spike damage, I should get an Esuna. A tank that uses Berserk should get an esuna for their pacification if there's no other pressing healing matters to attend to.

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Okay, I'm not sure if you're aware of this or not because I'm not sure about where you are progression-wise, but in the endgame, there are some raid bosses that have what is called a "DPS Check". During these DPS checks, you literally need to do as much damage as possible before time runs out or everyone dies. It's not a matter of clearing content quickly for farming, though that is helpful. It's a matter of doing my job as a DPS unhindered so the party doesn't wipe.