I really would like to tank, but

[Laesha]

One thing to keep in mind is how very important your weapon level is as a tank. Not sure how updated/accurate your loadstone profile really is, but you may consider spending some soldiery (and a sand of time) to get your hands on an ilv110 sword. You could potentially follow up with a ilv130 poetics sword as well. It looks like you're working on your pld relic, but with so many dps who out-gear you, you may want to consider only using your relic for relic related endeavors (ie. killing the last boss for your atma books with your relic while doing the actually dungeon w/ a higher level weapon. Just don't forget to switch D: Yikes!!!!) I also noticed, if your loadstone is accurate, that you got your hands on some meldable accessories. You may consider putting some STR materia in those empty slots since aggro generation is related to your attack power (which str directly affects).

but yeah, hang in there. Take comfort in knowing that if jerk dps like this kick you (or if you leave because they're being jerks), they'll almost certainly end up as the losers in the situation. Even a 20min que + 30 minute dungeon run with a tank pulling 1 pack at a time is faster than 20 min que + time spent being a jerk + waiting 10 minutes for a new tank to not show up cause you kicked one + waiting another 20 min que + 15-20 minute dungeon.

[Leigaon]

It is rough and you need the right attitude for it. I use to love tanking, now I only tank for friends when they need it..every now and then I'll step back out into the world with my g.axe but you have to have the right attitude for it, there are times where I'm timid about things and others...the tank comes out, which means you can tell me all you want how things are but in the end you have two choices accept the standards for the run as I've placed them or quit.

That makes it sound like I'm unreasonable, I will pull what I'm comfortable with. Being a healer I got an idea of the route the whm will go through but I also know just how powerful the moves are such as a Divine Seal + Regen / Medica II stack. I don't pull over the amount that I'm comfortable with. Another thing is that personally, I am in no rush I like to enjoy the atmosphere of the run and watching character movements in battle.

In primal battles, I'll do what I know should be done in terms of placement and try my best. There might be a mess up and things like that happen. I'll get up and do it again hopefully with better reaction time. Being told reasonable things to do in a run I don't mind.

I can't tank full time, it's a side job that I enjoy. Tanks do look the best in this game and their weapons, to me, look astounding. I wish I could tank the entire time, but I don't have the skin for it 24/7. It has made me much more protective of my tanks as a white mage. I'll let a BLM die if he decides to yell at a tank and try to pull more mobs ahead of the warrior or paladin. After that I will remind him that he's not the tank, if you want something tanked your way then jump on the job yourself.

I hope the OP continues to tank and get all the creative gear that can be equipped.

[Evantide]

If dps are pulling early let them die. When I see a fresh 50 tank and I'm on ninja, I take it easy so that the tank doesn't have a hard time. Not all dps are going to be considerate so when that would happen to me I let them get pulverized.

It seems rough, but some people will only learn this way.

[monochromicorn]

My early tanking days were quite funny. The very first thing I tanked was titan extreme, followed shortly by t5. I experienced a lot of trouble with that, thankfully I usually ran with my fc at the time, or it would have been much worse. it really does get better. Much better. And the wod gear is very good, if you throw in some poet accessories for the accuracy. Just whatever you do, don't give up. You'll get better, and people will stop being d**ks, but it's sad that you have to meet some unspoken standard to not get hate.

[Carvaka]

I feel your pain. I hit relic quest, spirit bonded in northern than for gil, then spammed the hell out of ST for gear. About to spam Wod, fairly anxious going in. But nothing 20 or 30 runs won't take the edge off

[Arkenne]

I main DPS but am seriously thinking about my Tanking career... certainly the abuse sometimes one get as a Tank is unreasonable... but the 30 mins penalty from leaving a dun is good time for crafting :v

Dont give up XP

[JimboTCB]

In CT raids, just be lazy and wait for someone else to main tank, then offtank in Sword Oath. There's no point trying to MT those places undergeared (which, by current standards, appears to be anything less than 30 ilvls above the requirement) because people will just rip aggro off of you without even trying, and that's assuming the other tanks aren't going to be dicks and try to pull aggro off you on purpose.

I think I went into my first WOD as a tank dead on 90 ilvl, zenith relic and still using half my AF gear. The rest of it was strength accessories I'd previously farmed on my DRG plus some random tank items I'd won on greed rolls. Went fine, picked up some drops, and after a bunch more runs was 6/6 WOD drops in the space of less than a week.

Do some WODs, do some ST for tomestones and sands, get yourself the 110 weapon and shield and you should be fine from then on. It's just getting over that intial hump in the gearing process that takes a little effort.

[LimeSamurai]

Thanks for the kind words of encouragement. They're pretty needed.

So since it looks like I'm going to need to get a 110 weapon, should I save up my soldiery tomes for a new weapon, or upgrade some jewelery? I know i have the allagan tomestone and sands to upgrade the sword, but would I not need better jewelery?

[monochromicorn]

Most tanks go vit, which is unneeded for the most part, so unless you're trying to stack strength, the jewelry won't do much of anything for you.

[DxWings]

Your Sword and Shield is your #1 priority in upgrade because their contribution to your aggro generation is much much more than that of jewelries/accessories.