Not all servers share those sentiments. Just because one server has an FC or LS devoted entirely to helping people, doesn't mean they all do.

I've transferred servers multiple times because I would get into FCs that claim to be active and helpful and they end up being ghost towns (meaning no one ever says anything or does anything together) or high-school type cliques full of catty drama.

Not to mention, some servers (as you previously mentioned) have little to no end-game raiding going on. The first server I was on was nothing but hunt parties all day, every day. You never saw anyone wanting parties for SCOB (that was the highest raid back then).