Entitled DPS, please stop being entitled

[Adire]

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The only "wrong" I did was that I didn't immediately respond to him, and that was partly due to failing to know what to say immediately, and partly due to refusing to be taken advantage of when being (what I perceived, whether right or wrong) demanded of. It was not my "ego" blocking me. I did not sit there and think, "welp, not going to help this guy now". It did not stem from any ego (unless being irked by someone making demands) problems, and I even "redeemed" myself by helping him kill the mobs he pulled while we discussed the compromise. He believed he had the right to get his way 100% and hold us hostage by using the healer, whose job is not to pull, as leverage to get his way 100%. He wanted the healer to not do their job in order to force us to abandon our rights completely.

My compromise and willingness to continue if he had indicated he was going to be a decent person was evidence of my coolheadedness as well. I will say I need to "simmer down" some after this thread though. 30 pages of people regularly throwing insults at me personally can become hurtful though, even though you haven't done it yourself. I'm not even arguing with you that I would have done things a little differently if I could go back in time (such as asking him to rephrase his first sentence), but hindsight is a benefit I did not have at the time. You also haven't thrown direct, personal insults at me and my character either, and I do thank you for that.

You're getting the wrong idea that I am egotistical enough to be uncompromising and unwilling to admit faults though. In this situation, I did nothing more than simply defend my rights. I took his into consideration even after he treated me terribly. And as I've said, I always do clears if asked nicely or if outvoted. An egotistical person would not do either of things.

And like I said, I've had far fewer bad experiences as a dps and healer. I main NIN and play BLM more than PLD these days too, and yet still have more bad experiences as a PLD.

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It's logical to make the comparison. Why? Because people still have preferred classes, and therefore preferred roles. That's why people say they main things. I main NIN for example, which is of course DPS.

He also may have been a better tank, I don't know. How is this relevant to anything though?

We can sit around all day going on about 'Maybe if you had been polite SOONER' if we want, but that's stupid and a hilarious double standard. Tank has to immediately respond with politeness and roses, but DPS can word anything anyway they like and are to be assumed to be in the best of intentions.

Very good points in your post Krylo, especially this one. Thank you

Everyone wanting me to assume the DPS had good intentions with his sentence and being okay with him assuming (and assuming themselves, judging by some posts here) that I had bad intentions by not immediately doing what he wanted or saying "please reword that" seems...odd.