Besides my overwhelming surprise that this charade has continued on as long as it has it occurs to me that no one has stated the obvious yet, so without further ado...
Let's break it down from what little we know. For the sake of argument we'll call them "facts" to ease the more sensitive of emotional state. Dzemael Darkhold starts. OP (tank) and buddy (dps) are there as a pair. Dps in question is there with his buddy (healer). Comment "No Skipping Anything" is made and regardless of its context (general, asking without proper usage, or demand. It's left to interpretation) sets the stage for, IMO, a gross display of human affairs. OP ignores comment and proceeds by his/her own admission. Mobs are pulled, dps in question doesn't like being ignored and pulls extra. Initial + extras are killed and then the "talks" begin. "Compromise" is offered and summarily declined/rejected (interpretation, once again).
"Threats" (I still get a chuckle out of that one) are made if "demands" are not met and after whatever amount of time elapses, "talks" have eroded to the point of non-existance and dps in question and healer buddy leave. (I reckon that about covers the key points of the situation presented to us).
Problem number one: Assumption. I shouldn't have to say this but the rule of thumb with assuming is that'll make an a$$ out of u and me. You cannot base tone/context off of incomplete speech. Some people don't/can't be bothered with proper or as best as you can get English. Some barely know it at all.
Problem number two: No confirmation/communication. Even had it been a "demand" there was no way for you to know it was such without further investigation. You cannot use later events to justify the assumption because your having ignored the player probably annoyed the piss out of him/her.
Problem number three: Attitudes going into talks. If it wasn't apparent by the time the enemies were dead anything that had to be said was pretty much dead on the floor. You asked the bard to AOE but in his/her mind he asked for full clear. So in his/her mind why should s/he do as you ask if you weren't going to do the same? Ah, but the compromise made... that's the kicker. You call the comment he made at the beginning a "demand" but by this time the air was so thick with tension any compromise would have been seen as the same to the player. Roughly like this: "AOE or no full clear." is essentially how it worked out in his/her head. So s/he responded in like manner (they believed) with the so called "threats".
Problem number four: Blatant disrespect for one another. This is the one that is going to be denied until judgment day. By the time all else had transpired, lets face it, neither of you were going to shake hands on anything.
DISRESPECT is what brought this madness to its anticlimactic end. Why? Because humans can't seem to humble themselves long enough to think logically anymore. Neither of you stopped before it got out of hand to try and resolve it, no use in denying it. BOTH of you were dead wrong. Not just him a whole lot and you a little bit or vice versa. BOTH. You two couldn't be bothered to show the slightest hint of mutual human respect towards one another and communicate about it until it was so far gone that Ghandi couldn't fix it for you. Maybe he did "demand" it of you. So what? All you had to do is type out "If you ask me nicely I'll do it.", but you had to be the "rebel" and it cost you. You couldn't be the bigger man/woman and take the high road. You wanted to show your a$$.
That garnered the response you got in like kind. S/he could've taken the time to type longer and if English wasn't the native language it should've been made known. Given the fact that most assume everyone knows what they're doing the groups tend to run off the moment the barrier falls. But even then it could have been typed out in the loading screen. Neither of you are innocent, at all. It's just another classic case of egotism at play.

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