Entitled DPS, please stop being entitled

[Fynlar]

Totally with the OP on this one.

Whoever pulls determine the pace of the run. And it just makes most sense for tanks to be doing that.

If you are not the tank and you want to suggest a pace for the run, do it politely and I'll almost certainly listen to what you say unless extraneous circumstances require otherwise. Otherwise, I'm going to ignore you, or if I'm feeling particularly irked, I'll just do the opposite of what you say simply to spite you.

For what it's worth, I've had way more healers try to dictate my pacing rather than the DPS, so this isn't strictly a DPS thing.

If a healer doesn't want to do a speed run. As a tank...you are not doing a speed run, believe me.

If a healer is both A) being bossy about what kind of run they want and B) deliberately taking action to try to get the kind of run they want (either by running ahead of the tank and pulling mobs, or by just standing there and not healing), that constitutes as harassment/"AFK" to me and if you're causing party wipes that way it will generally not be hard to get the DPS to pass a vote to kick you.

This is all assuming, of course, that the tank isn't being a dipstick himself and is actually properly gauging his party's capabilities before attempting to pace beyond their means.