This 100%. Let's cut the bs already. People need to grow a backbone on this argument against parsers.
You don't have to use a parser, but if you're struggling to clear the content due to a DPS check? You deserve to keep failing due to your mentality that the parser is the problem not the people using them for negative means.
Trust me, if the actual good players are using parsers and they see people under performing considerably, they don't need to mention you're doing bad and won't because it's against ToS. You will instead be ostracized unknowingly by members of the community and continue to struggle and move from party to party. Your name will get tarnished among the actual good players and less of them will be inclined to take you or run with you. Let's stop acting like this doesn't happen already because it does daily.
Then when you have the actual good player try to voice their concern and help those under performing? So many times are we insulted with this bravado that they "know what they are doing". Clearly you don't because you are doing poorly. This, along with the nerfing of content meant to be difficult, is breeding bad DPS because ultimately they have no metric to answer to. They have no REASON to perform well and can instead remain in ignorance while others carry them.
Just the other day, I ran with a NIN and a DRG in T10 alongside a BRD friend of mine. Both that NIN and DRG WITH ECHO, are doing barely 300 DPS. If it wasn't for myself and the BRD and the SCH who were all out damaging these players, we likely wouldn't have cleared this content and this is the cesspool you will deal with on DF and even PF.
It's time people stop blaming the tool for the problem and not the people who are using it for bad means. I believe someone before said here, you can use a hammer for two purposes.
It can be used to make great buildings and constructs which will create jobs and stimulate growth universally, or it can be used as a tool of murder. Does that mean we should ban the use of hammers in daily life because people can murder with them?
Grow up already people.