I am also on the Tonberry server! I've been active in three servers prior to settling. Those being Siren, Balmung and Leviathan.

I settled in Tonberry due to the fact that the server was bustling around the time I would settle to play which made it a lot more fun. The other reason I stayed on Tonberry is because I met such friendly people on there as well as a lovely FC (again, been in a couple) I'm not sure about the ping though as I know that I had a friend from the UK playing and he found it quite difficult in raids especially during busy periods. But if you do happen to go to Tonberry definitely send me a tell and let me know! My FC is such a lovely group, willing to accept and help out new and experienced players, which again, makes the game a lot more enjoyable